there is sum days i want to foget bday cuming up coz my dad is not ther to enjoy it he enjoyed bdays beter then others did                                                                                                               xmas coz it woz my dads tim of yer it woz his bday boxing day and he enjoyed xmas like a big kid even new yer he enjoyed allways hopet on news yer day the yer wood be a good 1 well not this yer             easter he enjoyed only for the sweats he cud eat 

DO THEY NOT CARE?

• Posted by Irwin Dresner  on October 2, 2012 at 9:51am
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This Friday it will be 3 years since my wife passed away. In that 3 years my daughters came to visit me 2 times. I live in NEW YORK they live in Florida. A month ago my older daughter flew to Boston…

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my dad used to all wayz say that no body is perfect that we all make mistaks in life he woz all ways holding on at the last minit to get medical help i tak after him for tht like father like dorter made mistaks to my dad used to make mistakess i no a few yrs ago i did sumthnk very silly making sure my dad woz ok went to crush cans for the resycal bin but i went and got my foot cort in the can crusher wish i no woz very silly wen people used to judge me or any body else he wud tell them yore…

I havent been coming here very often as of late.

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It makes me feel numb. I like numb.

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Today I…

My mom was great!

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evry tim i sea that advert i thnk  of my dad c  o p d but the post mortem 3 difrent repoerts wish i dont whis 1 is the rithet 1 and seaing the person on the oxygain tank reminds me of my dad it duze bean short of breath is a early sinn it is go to the dr i no i shud go more often i get wong off the dr for not cuming early but  i all ways say i dont want to waste yore time but he sa he says im not wasting his time my dad woz the same wud rather hold on and fite him self then sea the dr but in…

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