Thank God that I've been able to reach out to people and realize that I need to not let the grief consume me. It's like this, I say oh this can't get any worse but deep inside I am thinking it will get worse. If I'm in the mindset of it's only going to get worse.  Guess what, it's only going to get worse. There's a term used in psychology called the self fulfilling prophecy. It's the idea that we will fulfil our beliefs about oursleves. We say, the pain is going to get worse" It will. We say I'm going to fail the test on whatever, we will.If we can get our selves to say, "It's going to get better", it will! What needs to be done is positive self talk. Say things like, "It's going to get better. Be kind to yourself but dont slack on life, life isn't paused for the grieveing. Life carries on for the living. Would our loved one's want us to be consumed in pain? I am going to say, no. The pain willl get better, we'll have our moments, yes but it's going to be ok. Keep this in mind. Hugs to all!!!