I have 2 daughters,  one lives in Minnesota and the other in the sunshine state, Florida.  For 2 years my husband and I dreamed of moving to Florida.  Last summer we got really serious about making the move. Wow! we were really going to do it. We started packing what we wanted to take and gave everything else to the salvation army. We didn't bring alot cause we were going to start over, new journey, new life.  MARCH 2012.  We sold our house in Indiana and headed for Florida March 18, 2012.  My husband retired after 30 years from AVL.  Of course we moved in with our daughter until we could find something here.  We had hoped to get part time jobs at Disney. 2 weeks into our new journey I started putting in applications but my husband seemed tired.  He blamed it on the time change.  No problem, no rush!  During our 3rd week here my hubby woke with a bad headache. The headache continued. No relief with tylenol.  He mentioned he felt weird. My daughter was home from work but stepped out to get supper with her boyfriend and her son. By this time my husband was really getting sicker by the minute. Where is the nearest hospital I ask myself several times. He started throwing up and the pain was almost more than he could bear.  He started praying.  I knew I had never seen him in that much pain before so I knew something was wrong.  I called my daughter and told her what i thought and the way he was acting and the expressions on his face.  She return right away.  One look at him she said "Mom, I think Daddy may have had a stroke".  He refused an ambulance.  Off we went to the ER.  Upon arrival, A stroke alert was called.  I would say within 7 minutes the ER doctors informed my daughter and I that My husband had 3 brain tumors to show up on the CT scan with a 6 mm midline shift to the brain.While we were talking to the DR.  a chest xray was being done.  Again..it was repeated.  The same DR. ask us to have a seat, he needed to talk to us.  Lung Cancer!  WHAT!!  one lung was full of cancer and the other had several tumors.  STAGE 4 LUNG CANCER WITH METS to the BRAIN.  All this news on Good Friday April 6, 2012. He was to be air lifted to St. Petersburg Fl. to Tampa Bay Hospital but the winds were to much to fly, so critical care ambulance took off with him. After brain surgery, chemotherapy and radiation we were to enjoy quality of life so we were told. My husband did not get to enjoy quality of life.  He passed July 18, 2012. 

 

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Comment by Pamela Manning on September 25, 2012 at 8:11am
Thank you for the warm welcome!
Comment by Pamela Manning on September 25, 2012 at 8:08am
Yes, Joe was an insulin dependant diabetic. He also had a spinal fusion on the upper part of his neck. He complained to the doctor many times about getting sharp pains in his head. I believe the doctor was more cncerned about the high blood sugars. However the doctor said if his face went numb then call him right away. The doctor said the pain is probably due to the fusion. He believed it might have to be done again since it has been done so long ago. He also had weakness in his left arm, again due to neck fusion per doctor. This was only discovered in Florida. His doctor in Indiana never has a clue. Pam
Comment by David H on September 24, 2012 at 11:59pm

your husband was so far along with all the problems he had,it is sad to hear of his loss. Did he have any medical problems prior to the doctors discovering he had cancer and the tumors. Again sorry for your loss  Welcome to the group

 

Dave

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