Is this normal...

On the one year anniversary of my sister's passing. A mass is scheduled. Mom, dad and I plan to attend. Dad called brother-in-law to let him know we will stop by on our way to mass. He is fishing, but will be home in the afternoon. On arrival to their home, their two teenage boys are home watching tv. We chat with them. We decide to take some pictures of their lawn, plantings, flowers, etc. She loved her outside space. We get ready to leave and BIL pulls in with his boat. He brings his girlfriend and introduces her to my parents. My dad hides his feelings well and they shake hands. My mom has the look of disbelief on her face and hesitantly puts her hand out. The girlfriend looks very upset as to the cool reception. I feel bad for my parents. They are trying to support him through his grief, but this on the day of their daughter's death a year ago feels like a slap in the face...Help me understand. The girlfriend has been in the picture since two months after my sister's passing (long cancer battle).  

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Comment by David H on October 2, 2012 at 12:49am

I guess its a matter of each persons feelings. The brother-in-law is doing well having a girlfriend after only a year Did he intend to go to mass or you just stopped by to say hi.He sounds like he wasn,t going to mass(fishing).Iam neutral here,usually when I comment I get blasted by the person writting the blog. If brother in law was planning to go to mass then Iam sure he would have said his girlfriend was coming (maby she woud decide not to got mass) I don,t know does he know how you felt or feel about his girlfriend ,maby it was becasue mass was going on . Would you and your parents welcome the girlfriend to go to mass.I can understand feelings of those closest to the loved one who passed away.For the sake of being able to being able to visit where your sister used to live and see the teenage boys just accept the girlfriends presence and move on  

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