I'm not usually a judgemental person, but I was reading a magazine today and one of the articles was about a lady who's husband had died 9months ago and she was talking about how she had met a new man and was ready to be in love again, and how her husband would want her to be happy again, I know Andy would want me to be happy again(never gonna happen)  but i can just not understand that , it just doesn't make any sense to me,in fact it makes me think she must be a horrid person, I know I…

Last Wednesday, I was feeling particularly sad. I've always been a hack poet  so I wrote this

little ditty down to vent some sorrow and feel a bit better. It helped.  Hope it can help you

abit.    Mel

YOU TOOK HER FROM ME GENTLY   M.Royer  Fri, Jan 22, 2016

You took her from me gently, on that shining springtime day.

It was warm, the sky was bluer when…

evry pic i sea a person is missing 

 It's Monday, and I hate Mondays--for two reasons now:  starting over another week, and my beautiful, funny, loving Mom passed away on a Monday. I was thinking, this evening, how much my life has changed since she died.  I used to put in a days work and then go spend the evenings over at Mom's. My husband was healthy then, and often worked till late in the evening, so I spent time with Mom, Dad, and my son at her house. We ate together, then she made us watch  "Wheel of Fortune " with her.…

New to this site but wanted to leave a message. I lost my husband of 13 years about a year and a half ago at in an atv accident. Being a 40 year old widow seems so weird and movie of the week, you know? My life has changed so much. I moved back to Colorado to be near family. (Which is good) but things are so lonely. Do we only get one "person?" Am I all out luck forever because I lost mine? I struggle every day. I go to work and do the things I'm supposed to do, but life has lost that zest,…

I am posting a link to a book I found that very much resonates with my soul. It is a pretty sizable preview and the author, Alan, offers compassionate support and wisdom from counseling with many bereaved.…

As I read the anguish in the blogs of so many who have lost the love of their life recently, it takes me back to that dark, black empty place I lived 5 years ago after losing my wife of over 23 years.

Everything that I've read echos where I was, how alone and shattered I felt.  …

Ever since New Years I'm not sure exactly where my feelings are going. But something is changing. When this hell first happened I felt like I was in 3 places at once - back "there" in March 10th, on this miraged, twilight zone planet, and a completely different, distant planet with my only connection to the first. I've heard people relate grief to being out on a desolate, vast ocean, floating in the middle of nowhere. That may be what I'm starting to feel now. The difference between the…

I am conducting a research study on the way Americans think and talk about loss and grief. This is a part of my PhD project.

You are eligible to participate if:

- you were born and raised in the United States

- you are a native speaker of American English

- you are an adult (19-60 years old)

- you have experienced the death of a loved person within the last 1-5 years.

If you are eligible and willing to participate, please go to the…

I am lost, and tired. Have not been sleeping well for days now, and became sick. Yesterday night. when I was wide awake and could not fall back to sleep, it hit me. It is that time of the year again. My brain tried to forget, but my body did not. My dad's birthday is in 5 days, and it will be 5 years since my mom has, I can't even say that word, I don't want to say it, then it will be real. All I can do is ride it out, wait for it to pass, and try to distract myself as much as I can. But it…

I refilled my prescription for my antidepressant yesterday and swallowed that bitter little pill before bed last night. Apparently, I must have needed it, for it knocked me out till 10:30 this a.m. I scrambled to get dressed for work, then spent half an hour trying to "mend my face"--cover the deep dark circles under my eyes with half a tube of concealer stick,  draw my eyebrows on in such a way that I won't look like Joan Crawford or someone who just spotted a large rat running across the…

 this pain will never end, I cry so much, I hurt so bad. I told my husband tonight to let me go. I just cant keep hurting so much.  I want to be with my son, and I know shawn needs me to. all these pills im on do nothing,  my life is just tears, pain, sadness. im ready to go, I want to go.  dear god let me be with my son, stop this hell I live in please. im so lonely please 

I'm mad as hell right now, I've just read on here about anothers person loss and it's heartbreaking. Every night before I go bed I speak to Andy not because I believe he's here and can hear me because truthful I don't, it's just something I do , anyway tonight I more than ever hope I'm wrong and that he can hear me because I will be telling him if there is a so called god,please tell him that I think he's a fucking wanker for taking yet another daddy away from a small child like I've just…

Ok even though I said I wouldn't go out socially again, as it felt so wrong last time, i gave it another chance and went to my good friends 40th party, her being a good friend and the fact that my daughter wanted to go I found myself thinking why the hell not, my lifes over anyway and new years eve and day were just the most horrific days for me even worse than xmas day , I spent the whole 2 days in floods of tears so I knew going to the party couldn't be really worse, but I still haven't…

Link from Article http://www.indianapolismonthly.com/longform/dear-kate-living-with-grief/

Article written by a mom who lost her daughter. Very well written and honest.

Dear Kate:…

2016 Three years and I miss you T.J. I just can not accept this horrible life without my only son!

its got my tears u cud say…