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Comment by nadia on July 9, 2011 at 8:19pm

I have had people saying to me that my sister would not want me to be crying as I do.. that she would like me to be happy.. I do not always get much comfort ad still can keep the tears ..although I know that she would not want me to be upset... I did however felt so good when I friends told that she saw my wonderful sister in her dream and told her that she is ok and that she is looking after us... trust your heart ...

Comment by marlene lovell on July 9, 2011 at 8:07pm

A friend told me today that my husband would want me to move on and not cry as much...this is from her so called communication with him from the other side. Any comments on what I should make of this statement?

Comment by nadia on July 9, 2011 at 8:05pm

Dear Semary

I toocant bear to part with her belongings.. I scrutinise every item and collect strands of her beautiful hair... I want to keep the smell of her forever....and fretting that by storing them for the summer this will go away....I miss her so much..  is it selfish not to want to hand down to charity of friends ??

Comment by Semary Rose on July 9, 2011 at 7:55pm

Hi everyone.  Thank you again for all of the compassion.  Weekends are hard these days.  Lonely, sad and depressed and just exhausted.  Speaking of the belongings of our dear lost ones, I worry so much about that.  Each day when I get dressed, I lean over to his side of the closet and bury my head in his shirts and try to smell him.  I can't ever imagine those things going anywhere other than where they are.  What will I do when I move?  I think that maybe the girls would want his hats or jackets or sweatshirts. 

Comment by mercy on July 9, 2011 at 1:52pm

No problem Semary. I only have one child and I too don't feel like I have enough time in the day to do all that needs to get done. I can only imagine how hard it is with three and having no help. I know you're trying your best, whatever you can get done is ok, don't beat yourself up. I'm just happy to be able to get through one hour without losing it. Take care of yourself.

Comment by mercy on July 9, 2011 at 1:48pm

Semary, no problem. These days my brain, hands, feet and everything else seem disconnected.

Mercy.

Comment by Karen R. on July 9, 2011 at 10:59am

That's wonderful Melissa!  I am sure that was your dad. Sometimes, more than less, I beg my son to NEVER leave me, I want him by my side, I never want him to cross over......so to speak. I know that's selfish. I always imagine him opening the front door and I squeeze him until he almost pops.

Comment by nadia on July 8, 2011 at 6:48pm

I too feel tired all the time.. I feel like my life is on very slow motion mode... I am forcing myself to do things , complete all the painfully stressing tasks following the detah of my wonderful sister to spare my mum... I have spent days packing all the things for her rented flat... busy busy busy and the it would hit me.. that she is not here... now that the moving has gone I have to face the unpacking again retracing her life through the boxes the clothes and smells .. I dread and crave for it... I am reluctant to give away too much... trying to force myself into her petit shoes... some friends say keep only very selected items or do not wear her things as these will wear you down... I am not sure I can do this... one dayI cannot just pack and store away her things - I feel I need to honor adn wear them and I do but I get more frequent flood of tears...... how did you deal with your loved ones belongings ???

nadia ( I love you my wonderful sister always) x

 

Comment by marlene lovell on July 8, 2011 at 6:30pm

Than You Karen. It helps so much that others share and understand each and every feeling we experience.

Comment by Sherri Martin on July 8, 2011 at 4:32pm

Thanks for your comment, Karen.  (((HUGS!!!))) I hope your day is going as well as it can.

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