School is hard. I can't get my grades up. I'm losing intrest in trying anymore. I feel that I wont graduate or get my dream job. It's so stressful I feel that theres no point trying. I have nothing to look forward to in life if I never graduate. I feel like commiting suicide so I don't have to put up with it anymore.
Added by ann speck on November 17, 2009 at 10:37pm —
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i miss my mother. i am having flash back when the police and family told me that ahe'd had died. it seemed that i couldnt get home quick enough when i found out . i am fixing to be back on anti depressants but i just need to write out . when i get married i cried because she wasnt there, the happiest moments and sad moments she's not here. i keep having what if's going through my head all the time. she had heart disease an didnt wanted my dad to know bout it. . i miss her a great dill.…
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Added by jennifer daniels on November 12, 2009 at 10:00am —
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Its still hard for me to sleep at night. My doctor gave me "something" to help me sleep, but I don't feel I need to take it often. I spend most nights (that I'm off) awake in front of the tv. I hate that I don't feel motivated to do things around the house. Sometimes I want to move to another house but then I think about all that I would be leaving behind, the memories of her. I often turn off all emotions and just work on auto pilot. I hate that my husband isn't here, especially when I lay…
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Added by Latisha on November 8, 2009 at 4:12am —
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I was 16 when I lost the first person of great personal relevance to me - alright, it was Kurt Cobain and I was under the influence of great angst and the grunge movement - true, I had experienced the loss of my grandparents prior to Kurt's suicide, but those deaths were easier to reconcile with the natural course of life and the truth of mortality. Kurt's death was different, it was very personal to me and, combined with natural 16 year old self-involvement, directed me into a major period of…
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Added by jenn murphy on November 5, 2009 at 2:29pm —
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It keeps occurring to me, in a beat me over the head and smack me in the face kind of way, the total disparity between the almost instantaneous way in which I verbally began to refer to my mother in the past tense while on the other hand my mind, my imagination, my thoughts continue to function as though my mother was still present in my day-to-day life. Of course I'm struck by this often because my mother is pretty much all I think about these days.
So, what is the deal? Is it two…
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Added by jenn murphy on November 5, 2009 at 2:28pm —
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The holidays can be a stressful time for many people. Those that have recently lost a loved one, or are marking the anniversary of the death of a loved one, may find the holiday season especially difficult. The best way to cope with holiday grief is to mentally prepare oneself for it. There is nothing you can do to prevent holiday grief from happening, and you shouldn’t aim for that. Grief is a natural and healthy part of life. But there is some advice you can heed in order to quell…
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Added by Valley of Life on November 4, 2009 at 4:32pm —
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During the United States’ grim economic times, families have had to pinch pennies in many areas of their lives, especially when it comes to remembering a loved one that has passed. Funerals, like many other highlights in a person’s life, can cost families thousands of dollars. In reality, one does not need to spend a lot of money to memorialize and remember a loved one who is no longer with us. There are many options families can choose from to memorialize one who has passed that require little…
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Added by Valley of Life on November 4, 2009 at 4:29pm —
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Grief comes in many shades and colors. On average, each of the 2.5 million deaths every year in the United States directly affects four people, each of whom has a unique way of
dealing with bereavement based on gender, culture, personality, and age.
Age makes a tremendous difference in how grief affects us. A teenager will deal with death much differently than a 70-year-old will. Understanding how grief manifests in people…
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Added by Valley of Life on November 4, 2009 at 4:27pm —
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I recently (2 months or so ago) went through a breakup of a relationship of almost 2 years, and I am really having a hard time dealing with some of it.
I know it's not as final as a death, but I am still grieving, and I feel like total crap.
I don't have a lot of time to go and see traditional counselors, and sometimes I even feel like they have NO CLUE about what's going on with me because they are educated and trained to give advice, but it makes me wonder if they have EVER…
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Added by Leslie Taylor on October 29, 2009 at 11:01pm —
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For me grief has been something like this; you know when you're in an airplane or at a loud concert or club and your ears plug up so that everything outside of your own thoughts is muffled and garbled and ultimately it becomes too much effort to attempt to focus on anything outside yourself (maybe that part is just me - I'm both lazy and self absorbed)?
Then suddenly, out of the blue, your ears pop and unplug and you are hyper-sensitive to the slightest sound?
So I was all…
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Added by jenn murphy on October 19, 2009 at 2:30pm —
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When my dad died 7 months ago i didn't really allow myself to grieve properly and i just got back to work and going out with my friends, and drinking alot. now i look back and can't believe how much time has passed. I feel like i want to stop everything so that i don't get any further away from when it happened. I want to be able to break down and take some time to deal with this but i feel like i should have done it 7 months ago, and now the world around has moved on and it's like im not…
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Added by Benny Shipton on October 18, 2009 at 7:31pm —
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my friend kathleen is haunting me in my dreams and its always the same dream. i am in port coquitlam, and she is there then i see her and call out kathleen kathleen, and then poof she disappears into thin air. i miss her so much its been almost two years now and i wish i she could come back to life. is she trying to tell me something, and why is the dream always the same?
Added by donna henderson on October 9, 2009 at 10:42pm —
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Hi Melanie, Diana and Mom,
I want to share some news with you, because I know extra prayers can be powerful. Joshua lost a co-worker/friend this week. His friend, Andy, was on his way home from work Monday, and just innocently stopped at a stop sign waiting on traffic. Apparently a semi driver failed to heed his stop sign, and swerved, attempting to miss a car that was in the intersection with the right of way. This caused the semi trailer to tip over onto Andy's car, crushing it.…
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Added by Diana, Grief Recovery Coach on October 8, 2009 at 9:37am —
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My best friend in the whole world passed away unexpectedly 2wks ago. I miss her so much. Dealing with it is difficult. I have gotten sick and am now having to deal with this plus missing her. She was like a sister to me. We had known eachother since second grade, almost 50 yrs. Is there anyone else out there that can relate to my feelings? I lost others close to me, but this is very different.
Added by Kathryn Rolland on October 7, 2009 at 4:02pm —
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Sometimes religious emails are better than some of the funny ones we get and pass on....
Priceless .
Billy Graham was returning to Charlotte after a speaking engagement and when his Plane arrived there was a limousine there to transport him to his home.
As he prepared to get into the limo, he stopped and spoke to the driver.
'You know' he said, 'I am 87 years old and I have never
Driven a limousine. Would you mind if I drove it for a…
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Added by Diana, Grief Recovery Coach on October 6, 2009 at 4:37pm —
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I am at the point these last few days where I can rationally work through the reality that my mother is gone.
When I focus on that idea I can work it through to it's logical end and accept that all we have are our memories of Her. Luckily for us those memories are so full of Her incredible, indestructible spirit that they will not easily be lost.
And then I lie in bed and close my eyes.
That's when the instinctual part of my brain makes itself heard and…
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Added by jenn murphy on October 6, 2009 at 2:30pm —
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After being awake for a few hours today I suddenly thought, huh! I haven't thought about Mom once yet today. I almost began to panic (if you'll recall the grief I alluded to experiencing yesterday) but I almost suddenly realized that I was wrong.
The thing is, I hadn't experienced any of the sudden, overwhelming, excruciating memories of my mother that has the power to contort my body, mind, my spirit and leave me huddled on the floor curled into myself and trying to ward off the…
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Added by jenn murphy on October 2, 2009 at 2:30pm —
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I find myself focusing very hard on stemming the random flow of tears these days; not out of any sense of crying as weakness or a need to put up any kind of front of strength. I am perfectly comfortable feeling weak and giving in to said weakness, either while I'm alone or surrounded by any number of relative strangers.
Ask anyone who knows me, they'll tell you that I am capable of bursting into tears while describing an especially moving long distance commercial.
These…
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Added by jenn murphy on October 1, 2009 at 2:30pm —
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I find myself focusing very hard on stemming the random flow of tears these days; not out of any sense of crying as weakness or a need to put up any kind of front of strength. I am perfectly comfortable feeling weak and giving in to said weakness, either while I'm alone or surrounded by any number of relative strangers.
Ask anyone who knows me, they'll tell you that I am capable of bursting into tears while describing an especially moving long distance commercial.
These…
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Added by jenn murphy on September 28, 2009 at 2:30pm —
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Let me be sad,
Don't try to change the subject,
Comfort would be nice,
but don't try to change the subject.
My tears are warm and soothing and healing.
What a relief! it is to cry
without judgement or intervening
but some comfort, from a world that ignores sadness and suffering,
would be really nice.
Added by Kate on September 26, 2009 at 10:59am —
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