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Traumatic, Sudden Loss
I have started this group for people who like myself have suddenly, tragically and traumatically lost a loved one.
My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.
I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.
My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.
I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.
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Comment by nadia on October 29, 2011 at 8:12pm
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Dear Marlene so very very very sorry going thru this again so soon... never easy but there is only so much one can take... thinking of you... x
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Dear Mercy... thank you for your words.... I too take it as sign... this is my sister's baby she so wanted one.. she was so happy she was late one month... I was not up for another one but happy to have this one for her.. it is is just hard not feel so overwhelmingly sad without her... she adored my twins she absolutely dotted on them... to be gone so early I still cannot believe.. come back form work still momentarily thinking I better call you got to tell sg but then it hits me... she has given me this baby must have... been pregnant in 38 is a miracle...
must have been so hard for you... I will too looking forward into the baby smiles and laughs... a mini Tonia baby to cherish... thank you
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Comment by Karen R. on October 29, 2011 at 7:16pm
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dear Marlene, my deepest heartfelt condolences. I have not lost a parent or a close uncle or aunt but I have lost my 21yr old son, what you are going through is too much for anyone to bare. I can not imagine such multiple losses, especially, in such a short period of time. We can all only hope for some peace, no matter how small, no matter how long it may take to come.
Many hugs to you.
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Comment by Karen on October 29, 2011 at 7:14pm
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marlene my heart is breaking into a million pieces for you. I am so sorry you are feeling what you are feeling.
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I'm sorry Marlene. So sorry. You've had a tough year. I cannot imagine. I lost my dad 3 months ago today. The pain is just like yesterday for me. Dads are so very special to daughters. Take care....and blessings.
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I lost my dad yesterday to a massive heart attack...I lost my beloved aunt in august to another heart attack...I lost my husband nine months ago to a brain anyresum...and I lost my favorite uncle in December of 2010 to yet another heart attack.........WHY!!!!!!!!!!!..there is only so much one can take at a given time and Iam just now coming out of shock over my husbands death only to be thrown back in with my fathers!!!!
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Nadia; I feel your pain; I lost my brother when my baby was seven months old; then my mom died one year later. This baby has walked with me through my grief. I cannot believe how incredibly resilient Michelle is. I’ve virtually been sad since she was born. I had really bad post partum depression which never got treated, found out mom had cancer when Michelle was three months then lost my favorite brother and mom within one year. The baby you’re carrying is here to guide you through your grief; Michelle has the most beautiful smile and is the most vivacious girl you’ll ever meet. She laughs and giggles all the time as if to cheer me up. Mom really wanted me to have a baby and having her was like the fulfillment of all her dreams. I remember on the day I conceived, I called mom and joked with her I was pregnant; not knowing I would conceive just a few hours later……. I know your little one will feel your pain but will also bring you so much joy. Please enjoy your pregnancy; I know it’s what your sister would want for you.
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5 months on.. been here in forum lurking but having no nrg to post... the last month I am into very slow motion mode of functioning..5 months with my wonderful sister my only soulmate and can seem to reboot. I am lucky to have my partner and twin boys but still hurt... found out I am 4 months pregnant too and baby is due to be born one day before my sister's birthday.. this is her baby.... i want to believe it is a sign but hurts so much that I cannot share this with her... a sad pregnancy trying to be a but upbeat for the little one.. but cant help the tears flowing uncontrollable and the sadness that fills every part of me... I had to get back on posting I am having one of these very hard moments... I would just give anything to be with her.. wherever she is...anything to hold her... this poor baby is feeling and sharing my pain and cant help containing it somehow. hope you are all having a somewhat easier day/nite nadia
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Greetings billie Joe, sorry sorry for the loss of your son. I know that pain all too well. I am happy to hear that you are finding the strength you need, hopefully one day, I too, will find that strength.
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Comment by Ronna Doescher on October 13, 2011 at 2:46pm
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Christine:
I am so sorry for your loss. I understand it completely. In my walk through grief, I talked to a grief counselor through our local hospice. She gave me some copies from a book call Understanding Your Grief, by Alan D Wolfelt, Ph,D.
I have been posting them on my FB wall, but they deal with exactly what you are talking about. I will post them on the main page here so that people can know that although their walk is unique, a lot of their experiences are not. What may work for one will not work for another, but there are several suggestions on some things that may work.
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