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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

I have started this group for people who like myself have suddenly, tragically and traumatically lost a loved one.

My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.

I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.

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Loss of boyfriend due to motorcycle 3 Replies

Hello everyone, my name is Brittany. I am new to this and not quiet sure how this works. My therapist pointed me in this direction so i thought i would give it a try. I am 24 years old from…Continue

Started by Brittany. Last reply by Denise D Jan 31, 2021.

New to the Group

Hello All-I am a new widow as my husband passed away April 21, 2018 at the age of 49. He suffered a heart attack and had no previous history of any heart conditions nor does it run in his family.  I…Continue

Started by Danielle Wood Aug 2, 2018.

Struggling 2 Replies

Hi. My name is Cristal. I lost the love of my life on July 2nd. He had leukemia and had no idea. I begged him to see a doctor in the months prior to his death but he would not do it. He also suffered…Continue

Started by Cristal. Last reply by Cristal Aug 1, 2018.

My "Little Brother"

Hi Everyone, My name is Carlyn, and I live in the Ft. Lauderdale area. I joined this site because a very dear friend of mine was killed in a hit-and-run accident in May. My friend Rick, whom I called…Continue

Tags: violent, death, loss, sudden, friend

Started by Carlyn Jorgensen Aug 28, 2017.

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Comment by Pam Brooks on June 2, 2011 at 10:51pm
It's been 14 months since my daughter passed away.  She left behind 2 children.  I miss her so much and cry daily, still.  Guess I will never stop grieving.  Thanks for listening.
Comment by marlene lovell on June 2, 2011 at 9:29am
Annette, I too lost my husband five months ago. There is no way to tell you how to deal with this..the waves of pain come and go..What keeps me going is my strong belief that his soul survives and he is still present yet not seen. I still find myself waiting for him to come home and little things such as the sports teams he loved make me miss him even more. It is true when they say that you do take it one day at a time for if you do not then utter despair will overwhelm you. Always feel your full feelings and know that we are here for you even when it seems as if family and friends have moved on.
Comment by Annette Dominguez on June 2, 2011 at 9:15am
My husband has been gone 5 months. I still cry almost every day. I miss him so much. The anxiety comes and goes. I have friends and family but I am sure they are tired of me by now. This is the worst thing anyone has to go through in their lives. I know millions of other people have done this but I don't know how they do it. My emotions are all over the place. The only stable thing I have is God and I cry out to Him all the time. Any comments on how to deal with this are welcomed.
Comment by Karen R. on June 2, 2011 at 7:28am
Greetings Anne and everyone, you are absolutely right, there is not much more than we can all do but write. At least we know that surely someone will sincerely understand our pain and sadness. No one here would ever tell us to "stop" or that we should not still be grieving. The bottom line for me is that I want my son back! I will always want him back and I will NEVER be "OK" with this. Thanks again for listening.
Comment by anne on June 1, 2011 at 11:45pm
to all of you hurting from the loss of a child. I wish you peace. Keep on writing and talking it's really about all we can do.
Comment by Sandra LaBonte on June 1, 2011 at 7:58pm
Fari, I too am sorry for your loss. Please feel free to share your experience with me. The only thing I have realized about this nightmare is that is does help to talk.
Comment by farida narain on June 1, 2011 at 6:05pm
Sandra I am so very sorry to hear that you lost your only child and my heart goes out to you.  My daughter died almost 7 months ago in a collision accident.  The man who caused her death is alive but my daughter died instantly.  It is so very painful and heartbreaking.  Believe me Sandra I know exactly what you are going through because I have been going one step forward one step backward ever since.  There is that big hole in my heart and it would remain like that until my time comes to go as well.  I would like to share more of my grief experience with you if you would let me.   My name is Fari.
Comment by Arne Tonessen on May 31, 2011 at 4:41am

Panic attacks are non-stop. My heart races and I can barely breath. Anything and everything seems to trigger them.  From using pots and pans, a wedding gift, to making something to eat to just looking at where my wife sat next to me on the couch. I've been unable to sleep for more than 15 min. at a time. I go to work to keep busy and just want to leave as soon as I get there. I feel like I'm losing my mind at times.

 

Comment by Marti Shaffer on May 16, 2011 at 7:24am

Lorna, welcome the only way i get through this is:     

breathe in..... breathe out..... put one foot in front of the other..........breathe in.... breathe out......put one foot in front of the other..... when u can't breathe..CRY.

When you just can't get that one foot in front of the other...,STAND....  and above all else PRAY!!!!!!!!

Comment by Lorna on May 16, 2011 at 12:09am
Its been 3 months since my husband died from cardiac arrest at home where I had to do CPR till the medics got here. Today I was going through some of his race things and it hit me all over again that he was not here and will not be and it hurts so much... I try to get through each day but at night he is not here!!He was my life for 19 years.. so how do you just go on?
 

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My mom had pulmonary fibrosis. She was sick for a few years. It was funny how when my grandmother smoked, my mom would always say-I’m gonna die from second hand smoke. My mom never smoked. She died from lung disease. Ironic.I was fine at the funeral. Planning. Talking to everyone. I thought u handled it great. Now 4 months later, I’m a mess. Some days I’m perfectly fine, but others I can’t walk down the street without crying. I keep thinking that I haven’t talked to her in a while & I…See More
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