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Comment by Karen R. on July 21, 2011 at 10:37pm

Hello everyone, I too find myself agonizing over my son's final hours, days. I say that because he was in ICU at the hospital for a week before he passed away. He was there for 30 whole hours as a "john doe" before I even knew what happened to him, so I really don't know for sure when he loss consciousness. I am tormented by my thoughts of the fear and rage he must have felt when he was being chased on his friend's motorcycle before being rammed into another vehicle. I know that he did not slip into a coma at the scene because of witnesses that saw him. One lady told my daughter that after she saw my son landing  on the ground, she remembers that he rolled over onto his back and she said to her husband, 'thank goodness he is still breathing', because he was breathing so fast. Her husband is the one that called 911 for my son, everything happened right in front of their house. My poor baby!!!!!! This life can be so cruel, I have been stripped of all my joy I once had.

Comment by Sandra LaBonte on July 21, 2011 at 8:56pm

I have trouble with the 12th (the accident day) the 14th (the THURSDAY she was declared dead) and the 18th ( her funeral). The 12th plays in my mind like a movie. Laying in bed listening to her get up at 5am going to work. She had no idea what was ahead for her 7 hours and 24 minutes later. My poor baby Girl I miss you

Comment by Kandi Broussard on July 21, 2011 at 8:49pm

Farida,  I have the SAME problem every Thursday.  My mom was killed on a  Thursday night, as wel.  You are NOT alone.  I am here--- ok?  Kandi

Comment by farida narain on July 21, 2011 at 8:33pm

Today I am feeling so very sad and hopeless.  As a matter of fact every Thursday evening I feel so depressed because I keep remembering and thinking what it must have been like for my daughter in the last few hours of her life.  Little did she or anyone know that her life was going to end on that evening.  I keep hearing the sirens and imagining the scene of the accident and beating myself up because I  was not there to even hold her hand and kiss her goodbye.  It is  torture and unbearable traumatic pain.  My heart goes out to everyone in this time of our lives.

Comment by marlene lovell on July 18, 2011 at 10:47pm

And the world keeps on turning yet no stops and notices a loss as taken place.......

Comment by Ruth on July 18, 2011 at 2:54pm

Theresa, just keep coming back.  I don't know if it "gets better" but the quality of it changes when I can see that I am not alone in my loneliness and pain.  We have been estranged from family members in the past (my husband's parents) and while it was difficult to think of how that might have affected our children, we HAD to do it.  They have changed and learned, so it's all good now but both sides went through some heavy crap at the point we were not in touch.  Take the good, leave the bad, let us know how you are doing. Thinking of you, Ruth

Comment by theresa ouellette (wells) on July 18, 2011 at 2:41pm

ruth when i lost my mom it was chaotic and i do not keep in touch with fam cause of it except for 1 siste as fa as my granddaughter i am lost

Comment by Ruth on July 18, 2011 at 12:02pm

Dear Theresa,

Please accept my condolences on your losses.  We are here for you.  Many of us understand the need for support outside the networks others seem to be able to turn to.  I understand about your "truth-telling" disease, being turned away for not being in denial about life's garbage and/or losing someone that wouldn't heed medical advice or other warnings.  This is a soft place to land.  Blessings to you, write soon or keep reading. Ruth

Comment by theresa ouellette (wells) on July 14, 2011 at 11:11pm

i am here on and off....i have lost so many people in my life due to not wanting to here it and i think thats just way some people can be so i heve been tuned away alot

 

Comment by anne on July 14, 2011 at 9:51pm

Dear Theresa, We are here for you

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