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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

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Traumatic, Sudden Loss

I have started this group for people who like myself have suddenly, tragically and traumatically lost a loved one.

My mom died 8 weeks ago (August 17, 2009) She had been sick but I did not know the true extent of her illness. Her doctor knew she did not have long and I went to each doctor visit and talked to him at the hospital and he never told me and I do not believe mom knew either. I am not sure.

I found my mom sitting up on her bed and I know I knew she was gone. I still am in deep shock and cry occasionally but only a minute or two. Then I am back to not feeling or feel numb.

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Loss of boyfriend due to motorcycle 3 Replies

Hello everyone, my name is Brittany. I am new to this and not quiet sure how this works. My therapist pointed me in this direction so i thought i would give it a try. I am 24 years old from…Continue

Started by Brittany. Last reply by Denise D Jan 31, 2021.

New to the Group

Hello All-I am a new widow as my husband passed away April 21, 2018 at the age of 49. He suffered a heart attack and had no previous history of any heart conditions nor does it run in his family.  I…Continue

Started by Danielle Wood Aug 2, 2018.

Struggling 2 Replies

Hi. My name is Cristal. I lost the love of my life on July 2nd. He had leukemia and had no idea. I begged him to see a doctor in the months prior to his death but he would not do it. He also suffered…Continue

Started by Cristal. Last reply by Cristal Aug 1, 2018.

My "Little Brother"

Hi Everyone, My name is Carlyn, and I live in the Ft. Lauderdale area. I joined this site because a very dear friend of mine was killed in a hit-and-run accident in May. My friend Rick, whom I called…Continue

Tags: violent, death, loss, sudden, friend

Started by Carlyn Jorgensen Aug 28, 2017.

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Comment by Debra A. Whitemaine on November 13, 2012 at 4:39pm

Thank you for sharing, Kitty.  It is  beautiful.

Comment by Karen Casey on November 13, 2012 at 4:09pm

Very beautiful Kitty!  Thanks for sharing!

Comment by dream moon JO B on November 13, 2012 at 3:28pm

nise words kitty its how we all feal

Comment by Kitty Peine on November 13, 2012 at 2:13pm

I didnt write this, but I love it....

When we lose someone we love, it seems that time stands still. What moves through us is a silence...a quiet sadness. A longing for one more day...one more word...one more touch...we may not understand why you left this earth so soon, or why you left before we were ready to say good bye, but little by little we begin to remember not just that you died, but that you lived. And that your life gave us memories too beautiful to forget. We will see you again someday in a heavenly place where there is no parting. A place where there are no words that mean goodbye...

Comment by Kitty Peine on November 13, 2012 at 9:43am

I have friends that I completely trust who have experienced the other side. It is there. It is beautiful. And I can't wait...but in His time, not mine. God Bless you all. I pray for Peace for you.

Please, God, help us accept this and help us learn how to live with this hole that our loved one's passing has left.

 

By the way, Mr Bartlett, beautiful, meaningful, wonderful, insiteful poem.

Comment by Debra A. Whitemaine on November 13, 2012 at 9:27am

Good morning Kitty,

Sorry to hear about your sons.  It must be hard to grasp what happened.  And like you said it is tough no matter how you lose someone.  Similar to your father, my father passed suddenly after surgery.  And if they would have revived him, he wouldn't have bben the same person or been happy with needing help.  He was still sedated, so it was peaceful for him.  I just miss him so much!

 

A friend has read a book about the spiritual word and she said it sounds so wonderful there that she is looking forward to going.

 

Take care.

Comment by Karen Casey on November 13, 2012 at 9:25am

Hi Kitty - Just wanted to send you {hugs} and let you know I read your comment and my heart goes out to you.  The last sentence you wrote touched my heart. I have been bitter and my faith is rocked just like my world.   Just wondering where my husband is and if there really is a place.  I used to believe, but its been tough lately.  Thanks for your words of faith and bless you.  There is really nothing anyone can say, but "things" touch us in all kinds of ways.

Karen

Comment by Kitty Peine on November 13, 2012 at 8:23am

Good morning,

Both of my sons were killed in tragic accidents. my first preference would be that it never happened....of course. But, I don't know that I could sit and watch them die of a disease where there is no cure and the pain was so terrible and there was no hope. But then, the way they died, there was no chance of possible cure or help either. I don't know which is better or worse, all I know is it all hurts. My dad died 4 years ago of a massive heart attack. Had he survived, he would have not been able to care for himself. He would've been in so much misery, at least that is what the doctor's said. It was better for him that he went so fast. Plus, if Heaven is so awesome, why do we fight so hard to not go there? In my book my boys were too young to reap that great reward, but who am I to say. I am rambling and I am sorry. I don't have the answer, but I do know they are in a wonderful, beautiful place. And the world is not.

KP

Comment by dream moon JO B on November 12, 2012 at 3:11pm

yore good at poems joseph i no i cant do thm i never got tht gift all i no is i take a lot of fotos i do iv done so many this yer just to tkae my mind of thngs i do i cort thm 2 birds yesterday loking for food but thy did not sea me i woz doing somthnk for my mum puting flowers on my grandparents grave i saw thm2 birds but thy did not sea me and i cort thm

Comment by Joseph G. Bartlett on November 12, 2012 at 3:19am

thanks jb im am new at this whole thing and new at putting together poems  but it seems im getting a nack for them  and will add more as i fugure them out once again thank you for reading them

 

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