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Comment by anne on January 18, 2014 at 5:50pm

Dear sweet JLL,

All of those things you speak of about your mom will come back to you. The memories of her joyful smile will come back to your memory. I know this because when my son's were killed I never thought I'd ever get those things back again. I have gotten them back. Not in the ways it used to be but in many other ways. Someday's I can smell my oldest boys cologne, just a hint but still a gift. I hear my little boy's laugh when I hear kids on the playground. It took a long time to get to this point, but it was worth all of the rough times of grief to be in a place where the little things keep you living. Plus a mothers love always stays with her children no matter where she is. In time things will come back to you that will fill your heart with joy, and push away the sad. Speaking as a mother I believe your mom is keeping watch over you, and one day when the grief subsides you will feel, hear, and see her in your heart. It's hard to explain, but I know from my own experience that a moms love never goes away. I pray you get the answers you need about your mothers death.

Comment by JLL on January 17, 2014 at 1:41am

This Saturday will be the very first time in my life I will not have my mom singing Happy Birthday to me, telling me how much she loves me nor will there be the pure joy that emanated from every pore of her being.. There will be no more of her contagious laughter to brighten my 'special day'; there will be no closure..Each and every minute of each and every day I am overwhelmed with sadness, horrid pain, the deepest of sorrow, guilt and never ending horror. Having no answers to her horrific death haunts my every second! I will be turning 35; but does it really matter now that my mom is no longer here..

Comment by dream moon JO B on January 12, 2014 at 4:19pm

i no it hrts danny it hrts 2 mush i wish thr wz grief suport grps in area but thr is non i dont trust mnt drs i dont but i only trust ths oldr drs i only go wen i grt thm c infescions i do 1 it undrstnd thy ha lost pele 2 coz thyr older 

i no peple mean well but sm tms th can be a bit 2 mush lk or it gets easy im lk no it dose not get easy it never dose 

i no sm peple fnd it easy bit im 1 of thes it cnt fidn it easy i feal lk a kid its lost

sorry if im say wong wrds or ratng 2 mush

#

Comment by Danny on January 11, 2014 at 5:42pm

Both hurt for sure just that like Mark said, I had all these plans with one parent and all to do a few things and didnt expect the sudden part.  Again there were a couple of occasions when the health was worse but other than that i really feel cheated of so much. 

Comment by Danny on January 11, 2014 at 5:25pm

Thanks Mark yes it has been tough the last 6 and a half months but each day is a grind almost.  My parents did get to be together for 53 years. I was really worried because Dad was not well for years and I really them to get to 50 years TOGETHER. 

As for grief support, I have someone i can call on phone but due to the 'sudden' part, I have mostly focused on the physical symptoms so far with my doctor and the grief support mostly online + some friend who listen so like I am on 2-3 sites including this one.  I did talk to a grief recovery specialist for an hour but grief support is another thing and that is what is I need to find locally if I can that is.

Support to all.

Comment by dream moon JO B on January 11, 2014 at 4:25pm

me 2 mark 4 my dad 2nd anversy in mrch i get sic f bean told how i shud griiev or hw i shud feal iv got 2 do ths my way not thr way 

i no ill nevr get over it i dont thn any of us will 

wot i nevr thrt it cud hapen lozng mre peple on top after my dad died frm famly 2 frinds 2 nobz 

all i no i nead 2 grief at my own spead not thr spead

jo

Comment by Mark on January 11, 2014 at 3:30pm

Danny and others,

 

I'm sorry that things are a struggle, and the unpredictability.  I am closing in on 2 years since losing dad. They would have had 50 years together had they survived to this year, but it didn't happen.

I still have my moments and it is tough sometimes knowing they are not there.  I have found a grief support person through our local hospice. I never knew about it till Mom died and mom nor dad never used Hospice.

 

I wish you peace and strength

Comment by Danny on January 9, 2014 at 9:19pm

hello, maybe a trauma specialist may help but daily life right now is unpredictable but hope some of the hours are at least manageable so just keep at it.

Comment by A. Buyten on January 9, 2014 at 7:24pm

Hello, have tried different ways to cope with the loss of my girlfriend. I think by now that I really need some ongoing counseling, because it is not getting much easier to cope daily. I miss my babe and also my life. Still having unpredictable grieving daily. Miss her!!!! and there are so many times that we had together that run through every day in memories.

Comment by dream moon JO B on December 22, 2013 at 3:55pm

i no i nead grief conselng bt wen thr is no suprt grps wear u liv we r stuk 

 

i no lst wrd my dad wz on ths horbl wrd tht tratize peple fr life its did ths 2 a lot of peple  iv lost famly befre on it thn aftr my dad nw i cnt even set ft in a hopstple now i cnat 

i feal guilty tht i lft him thr 2 die on wrd i thrt he wud get betr nxt day but dnt he died at 220am on 3rd mrch 2012

sorrrry if iv bean rantng 2 mush

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