The pain of grief is awful. We may understand that the body needs to process grief to help us move on, but the question exists...Can we speed it up a little so it doesn't hurt so much?
The answer is Yes and No. The pain of grief must be felt an experienced to be free from it. The truth is, the faster you fully experience it, the quicker you'll have more 'non-grieving' periods that you can live your life. So, would you like to experience a heavier amount of suffering and move on from it quicker OR avoid thoughts of grief and have it painfully resurface throughout your life?
Grief, as you know, comes on like waves. Very intense, often without a signal that its coming. For lack of a better expression, we must "ride the wave." Experience the pain, the sadness, the tears and all the emotions for them to dissipate from your body. Anger, rage, fear, dread, guilt, denial are other emotions that will surface. It is very important to feel these feelings, and, to notice what it is you are feeling. As much as it hurts, it is a normal way your body must process grief.
Now, please note....I suggested for you to experience these emotions, not ACT on them. For instance, if anger comes up...do not yell at your spouse or your co-worker. If you feel guilty, do not sit there stewing for two hours in the guilt. Rather, notice "I'm feeling guilt," feel what guilt feels like...all those sensations in your body...then it will go.
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