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Comment by Esther on July 10, 2017 at 10:08am

Is anyone on here grieving the loss of a mother whom you had a distant relationship with? And how has that complicated things? How do you repair a relationship for yourself?

Comment by Joy on July 2, 2017 at 5:22pm

Lesley - I know how you feel. I cry everyday for my mom. We lived together my whole life and she passed on May 17, 2017. I just turned 48 in June and this is the first birthday without my mom. I couldn't wait for the day to pass. I keep thinking about all the things we did together because we were best friends as well as mom and daughter. Now I only have bittersweet memories. I'd like to join her.

Comment by Tina on June 17, 2017 at 7:46pm

I'm new to this as well as expressing my feelings, my grief and my anger! First let say, that cancer sucks!!!! My mom had not been feeling well for a while and had been treated for pneumonia. She came to my house for Thanksgiving and ate very little and didn't stay long, due to not feeling well. The following Monday, she called me and asked if I could carry her to the ER, when I got off from work. I asked if she wanted me to come now and she said, no wait until you get off. We arrived at the ER, at 5:00, and 13 hours later she is told that she had lung cancer and leukemia. She spends a week in the hospital and both were confirmed. She was too weak to start chemo, but endured 18 radiation treatments. My anger at the doctors came from them assuming she was depressed and they was the reason she was not eating and was nauseous. Two trips to the ER by ambulance because she was so ill, the last trip they admitted her again and actually did scans and realized that the cancer was all over, brain, liver and pancreas. That explained the hurting in her stomach and head, as well as the lack of appetite and being nauseous. This was on a Sunday and she passed away in the hospital on Thursday, January 19, 2017. Had we had known, we would have had hospice here and I would have taken a full leave from work to spend the time with her. It would have been easier for her, and she wouldn't have had me getting angry at her for not eating. I felt like I was the only one fighting to get her better

Thank you for taking the time to read this. Still dealing with so much anger, grief and I really miss my mom.

Comment by Jennifer on March 12, 2017 at 5:09pm

My mom died on February 25, 2017 at 2:30pm at the hospital in their comfort care unit. She had suffered a left brained stroke in 2015 and had a seizure February 18, 2017 that landed her in the hospital. She had the right brained stroke the next day on the 19th. I thank God for the time we had with her because we were able to say our goodbyes. I had to stop visiting her the last two days she was in the comfort care unit because each time she heard my voice she struggled so much it put her in pain. She fit when I was around. Her death was inevitable. I just didn't want to make her pain worse. I was asleep when she died. I woke up the minute she died out of slumber. I knew she was gone. Her smile in her coffin spoke volumes to me. I know where my Mommy is, so I can't cry or mourn as the world mourns for their loved ones. She is with God. I just have a comfort in my soul about that. I do miss her though. I miss her every minute she's gone.

Comment by Laurie Slicer on March 11, 2017 at 10:21pm

My mom died on Inauguration Day. I was her caretaker for a decade. She was 102, but her death was not expected. I lost my only sibling less than two years ago. My dad died in the 90s. I'm alone now. I know it wasn't what they wanted to do, but it still feels like they deserted me. It's foolish to think that, but this loneliness is devastating. My life revolved around her needs. We loved each other dearly. I miss her terribly. How do I learn to live with just myself to worry about? I'm not that nice a person. That was meant to be a sarcasm, but I'm not used to doing for myself and I don't like the idea at all. It scares me. 

Comment by Shellie on January 23, 2017 at 2:53pm

My mom was in a terrible car accident on chirstmas eve.tomorrow is 1 month since the wreck and just tearing me ip