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Comment by Karen R. on June 3, 2011 at 7:27pm

Greetings Vicki, I am so so sorry to hear of another loss of this magnitude. I loss my 21yr old son whose picture you see I think 18 or 19 months ago, I don't like to count the months because for me, it just increases my anger. Once again I am sorry that I don't have too many encouraging words because my pain has NOT lessoned one tiny bit but I can say, like I have said many times before, to keep writing because it helps to have your feelings and thoughts validated by those who, unfortunately, do understand. We will always be willing to listen. I know that your grand baby could NEVER replace your child but that baby needs your love. I am sure that your daughter will love her baby through you. Sometimes I wish that my son had a child, I try to imagine the comfort that would bring me. I will NEVER be able to accept what has happened to my son because it is unacceptable.

Comment by Laura Villarreal on June 3, 2011 at 9:07am

Hi Vicki....I am so sorry for your loss. I too lost my daughter (my only child) in May of 2009 (ATV accident)...she was only 33.  This has been my personal experience as we all grieve differently:  The loss of a child is the most difficult grief there is to contend/live/deal with and honestly it does not get better but changes who we are as it forces us to redefine who we are. Anxiety and panic attacks are quite normal; I have learned how to recognize and deal with them but that doesn't make it any easier. At first, whenever I thought of wanting to hug my daughter just one more time, my arms would physically hurt! I have also found that by sharing her memories with others helps to alleviate some of the heartache I have...I love talking about her to anyone who will listen! Friends, family and yes, even strangers! And in all your pain and heartache you have a grandson...a bright light in all your darkness. Your grief is very new so my one piece of humble advice is to take care of yourself.  Make sure you eat right and rest as needed...grief will take all the life out of you if you let it.  If and when you feel like it I think many of us here would like to know about your daughter...share as much as you want, we make no judgements here.  We have all lost a child(ren) in this group and we all making our way through the grief, each in our own way but together.

Take care,

Laura

Comment by Vicki Giddens on June 3, 2011 at 7:39am

I lost my daughter about a month ago.  She passed away during childbirth.  She left us with a beautiful baby boy.  I am thankful for him but I miss her so much.  I feel as though I will never be happy again.  I am always sad.  Life is not fair.  I want to scream. She never even got a chance to see his beautiful face.  This was her first child.  She wanted him so much.  My family has been very supportive but I just need to talk with someone who truly understands my pain.  I want to hold her so bad.  I have anxiety whenever I go to placed we went a lot.  Does it ever get better.  Thanks for listening.

 

Comment by Bonnie Cassell on June 2, 2011 at 11:10pm

Dee that is a great story. I have now just got past my first year after loosing my son. He was my world and still is just know I got to wait to see him. he was only thirteen when he hung himself playing a game. I have spent the last 7 days in the hospital learning ways to deal with this loss so that I wouldn't take my own life, just to be with him. he was the only great thing that I did awesome at in my life at least that is what I thought. I dont suffer  right now I am pleased to know that he is in heaven and I will see him .

Comment by Dee Davis on May 25, 2011 at 6:41pm

Bonnie, I am Dee and I lost my son Jamie Sept 09Just a few mos after was ordained as a Minister for God. He was born with Cerarbral Palesy.He was not suppose to live past 15 or be able to graduate high school, or work and take of hisself. He not only graduated High school, but 3yrs of Bible college,and became ordained, preached 5 different churches, and made a tape ministry. When he preached I taped him and after he passed I put them on DVD.I plan to write a book on his life,when I get where I can try and remember things without falling apart. He was well known for his wonderful Smile. So now I make crocheted yellow smiley faces in his memory to still spread his smile around.//  What took him was a bottle of cough syrup with codene, that he had a fatel reaction to.He took it that night an woke up with Jesus,when I went in to wake hiim the next morn. I am a single parent of 3 grown children.So I felt as tho my world ended. I had mad him my world, since his dad wanted nothing to do with him, when he found out he was born with CP.But Jamie was loved by everyone who met him. There were over 250 people a his funeral.There were so many things the drs. said he wouldn't be able to do in his life, but I told them that my JESUS wasn't finished with him, and I Never let him give up on hisself. And now I pray for God to not give up on me , because I need all his strengt go get me thro each day now.  we are each others strength too. And I say a prayer for alol of us every nite.God bless you all..  Dee

Comment by Ann Edmondson on May 25, 2011 at 12:20pm

Bonnie - I will be on my computer until 4pm MST today and then again from 6pm until 10pm tonight. Please write and let's talk ~ Ann

Comment by Sandra LaBonte on May 24, 2011 at 10:00pm

Bonnie, I am sorry for your loss and your pain. I am new to this so I don't know exactly what to say, but I am a good listener. If you want to talk

Comment by Bonnie Cassell on May 24, 2011 at 7:04pm

Bonnie again Ann if you are here just write me my computer is going to be on all day. thank you I need help!

Comment by Ann Edmondson on May 23, 2011 at 11:36pm

Bonnie - if you are still on line drop me an email at ann.edmondson@yahoo.com I would be happy to hear your concerns and talk with you a little more privately about the loss of your son.

 

Comment by Ann Edmondson on May 23, 2011 at 10:36pm

Bonnie -- I am so sorry to hear that your sign hung himself. When members of our family commit suicide it leaves the rest of us wondering what we could have done to have stopped them. The first couple of years are the hardest for any of us who have lost a child. But your feelings are valid. Try to remember the good times with your son. If want you can post pictures here to help others know about your son. This place is open to hear your pain and we all will understand.

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