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Permalink Reply by dream moon JO B on December 30, 2012 at 3:11pm

sory for yore loss barbara i get told get over it i got told its easy eay how????????????????? i dont no how its easy i got told by som 1 in the famly i shud of got over it the day my dad died i got told wen poele die i shud foget abot him i cant coz they r part of my life story i no evry 1 has a life story and each life story is difrent if its good or bad or sad my surgate uncle not my real uncle he died last moth i got told foget abot him his not yore real unlce but i caled him uncle bill he felt like a uncle iv begin to relize some people hav no human fealing at all in my own family all am i going to say its some 1 whos on a power trip 

Permalink Reply by renee collier on January 20, 2013 at 1:27am

Hi Barbara,

I am glad you came back to this site. I think many people come in and out of this site.  I know I have. I think it is because grief comes in stages.  And when we think we are doing better something comes up to remind us of our loved one that we lost. 

well you are not alone when you come to this page.  I know the holidays have passed I home you found a way to get through them.  At least they are over

Best to you

Renee

Permalink Reply by Sandie Eader on February 13, 2013 at 8:01am

Barbara -

This is also my 2nd year. I thought it would get easier but everything others have said is true. The first year (10/2/2011) is all about the grief and numbness and the "firsts" and then, what!!?? Valentine's Day is tomorrow (our special day) and it's no fun alone! The kids were great over my birthday a couple days ago but Valentine's was always the best! My husband was So Romantic - flowers, candy, dinner, one year a dinner/dance at a fancy hotel here. I am so depressed! My supervisor lost her husband a few months ago and it seems she would be more understanding but she just piles the work on me like it's no big deal. I am a social worker and while it's my job to talk to ppl and help them deal with their problems, I find I am not really caring so much about that. I don't want to be around ppl or talk to them or hear about their "stuff." I have my own "stuff" and no one is helping me. I did see a counselor for a while but it's so expensive (she also lost her husband suddenly and is understanding). I just want to yell and scream and sometimes do - but I scare my cats! I'm sorry you have lost your dog, too. That must have been about the last straw for you! Not to mention the hurricane! I, too, have had to deal with things my husband just automatically took care of and now I am learning how to deal with things with out his advice. It's so hard! My son said it's been long enough and it's ok if I want to date. NOT! Being with another man does not even interest me at this point. I would rather be alone. I feel your pain, Barabara and others. We are not alone in this grief.

Permalink Reply by Sue Waxman on February 17, 2013 at 11:01am

Barbara,

How are you doing. Sue

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