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Permalink Reply by christianlee on May 12, 2012 at 5:46am

I'm so sorry. I too lost my dad almost one year ago..the pain is still there. I was not able to make it to the ER before he died. Too fast. I didn't get to tell him that I love him and hold his hand. It has been a very sad time for me. Dad was always very kind and loving to me. I share your pain in this heavy loss of life. Miss you dad.

Permalink Reply by The Dread Pirate on May 12, 2012 at 10:41am

Im so sorry for your loss and for the horribly traumatic circumstances.
My father died last summer, also aged 71. His death was the result of a surgical accident and although I was able to travel to see him before he died, he was unconscious and so we never had a "final conversation".
Im fortunate that I have a sibling, my sister, who lives closer to my Dads place and since his death has taken a leading role in dealing with a lot of that business.
After the death of my wife (the year before) I learned how difficult it can be to tackle so many things without the support of family and friends. So, if you have other family members or close friends nearby who can support you in any way, I would strongly recommend it.
A challenge in bereavement can be that it's hard to ask for help from others, sometimes hard to know what help you're need. My father was my most regular source of support after my wife died and along with missing him and mourning his sudden and too early passing, I have also been feeling the hole he left in my support network.
I hope you can draw on the support of friends and family in this painful and difficulty time.