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Comment by Patricia J. Jones on March 31, 2011 at 8:52am

I know exactly what you are going through.  It will be four months in a few days for me.  My husband aged so badly with his illness he ~ he looks so old in this picture ~ he had just turned 65 ~ three months before he died.  He was 10 years older than me.  We were married for 35 years ~ just a kid when I married him.  I miss him so much every day.  I think I was in a complete state of shock for 60 days.  Things finally started to settle after that and reality hit me in the face.  I keep my TV on 24/7 just to have some background noise.  I've had to completely stay away from the things we used to share together, songs, TV, favorite restaurants.  I can't do it right now.  As far as the medical bills go in some states you aren't liable for your husband's bills after his death.  I live in Illinois and I am not responsible.  I did my job by submitting them all to Medicare and Insurance but after that I'm not responsible.  Check it out.  All states have different laws.  God's blessings to you.  This grief thing is a lot of work.  One good day followed by a bad day.  Everyone calls it a roller coaster ride.  It does get better though.......one step.....one day at a time.

 

Comment by Sean Casey on March 26, 2011 at 4:27pm

Glad you're at least sleeping better and the crying's not hitting as bad.

 

It's been 7 weeks for me since I got the news my wife had killed herself.  I'm getting better at not thinking about it as much, but there's still so much to get done that it's hard to avoid all the reminders.

 

I know what you mean about learning to be (in my case) a widower.  Never figured I'd have to learn that at 41.