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Comment by Jo on August 28, 2012 at 7:46pm

Thank you all for your comments and thoughts

Comment by Jayne on August 27, 2012 at 10:50pm

Jo, I too lost my mom this July. It has been so hard to cope. She meant the world to me and I find myself crying all the time. I read what you wrote and I am touched and could feel the pain. you can write to me if you would like to. I would like to talk to you, Jayne

Comment by Becky H on August 27, 2012 at 8:57pm

Lisa, that poem was very beautiful, and it too gave me some comfort. I believe my father is trying to let me know he is here, and is ok. My surround sound system keeps coming on by itself and its never done that before now. So it does make me believe, that your loved ones are with you whether they are alive or not. Jo, I am only 28, and I feel the same. Lost and like a child. I can't even talk about my feelings with my fiancee because I can tell it makes him uncomfortable, so I say nothing, which hurts too. This site has helped alot tho.

Comment by Lisa on August 27, 2012 at 7:54pm

Hi Jo

I know all too well what you have been going through. I am 39 and my beloved Mom passed away on January 18th of this year. We were very close and the loss shattered me. For months I had to force myself to get out of bed in the mornings.

 

Since early June I have been seeing a psychologist for grief counseling and find that it helps. However, I still have days when I also feel lost and alone. I am unmarried, have few friends because I was always a shy "Mamma's Girl" and unfortunately my remaining relatives are of no emotional support. Despite all this, I am determined to go forward and try to live a full life because I know that is what Mom would have wanted for me( I am sure that is what your mother would want for you too)

 

Take Care and God Bless

Lisa

**P.S. I recently came across a lovely poem that gave me some comfort. I would like to share it with you so here it is:

                                                   Death is nothing at all

Death is nothing at all,

I have only slipped away

into the next room.

I am I,

and you are  you;

whatever we were to each other,

that, we still are.

Call me by my old familiar name,

speak to me in the easy way

which you always used,

put  no difference in your tone,

wear no forced air

of solemnity or  sorrow.

 

Laugh as we always laughed

at the little jokes we shared together.

Let my name ever be

the household word that it always was.

Let it be spoken without effect,

without the trace of a shadow on it.

 

Life means all

that it  ever meant.

It is the same as it ever was.

There is unbroken continuity.

 

Why should I be out of  mind

because I am out of sight?

 

I am waiting for you,

for an interval,

somewhere very near,

just around the  corner.

 

All is  well.

Comment by Jayne on August 27, 2012 at 6:35pm

I feel so lost about losing my mom several weeks ago. my mom was my  best friend. my people do not understand how I feel. the pain is bad. this site has been helpful.