The loss of my son

 

My name is Vivian. I lost my 16 year  son on October 23, 2011. I am hurting so much and noone seems to care what I am going through. When I bring up my son they want to change the subject which upsets me because I am basically going through  my grief alone. My husband isn't here for me he just pushes me away. I miss my son so much, his death was unexpected. He was sick off and on for two weeks before he passed away. He was going back and forth to the doctor. First they said he had an upper respiratory infection and then it was the flu. My son was at home when he passed away I watched him die before my eyes. The coronor said my son died from a blood clot on his lungs and heart. My son nd I were very close and I miss him soooo much.

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Comment by Rebecca Hill Loflin on February 4, 2012 at 8:45pm

Vivian,  You have my heartfelt sympathy.  No one knows the pain of lossing a child unless they have been also lost a child.  I have experienced that same pain of people not understanding what you are going through every minute.  My son Marty died in a hospital after what the dr said was a routine aortic valve replacement.  He was 34 and healthy. My life is upside down as I know your life is too.  Was his death because of being misdiagnosed by the dr.? I attend a group called Compassionate Friends. Everyone in this group has lost a child.  It's a group that no one ever wants to be  a member of, but thank goodness they are there.  I don't know where I would be today if I didn't attend these meetings.  The folks in this group have become my dearest friends and family.  They have been there for me through birthdays, holidays and everyday that I have needed a friend who really understands. They have chapters all over the US.  I am grateful I have a wonderful husband that is grieving with me.  He was a great daddy to Marty and is in pain just like me.  I wish you peace as you continue to live without your son.  Please contact me anytime.

Hugs,

Becky Loflin

Marty's Mama

Comment by Stephanie on January 30, 2012 at 3:37pm

hi vivian, i am so very sorry for your loss, your pain - everything you are feeling I PROMISE you are not alone. write to me,  lots of love xx

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