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Lost my husband the father of my kids and bestfriend . 6 Replies

  I lost my husband we were high school sweethearts we had plans and it was not suppose to be this way we had two kids together and I feel so lost and the pain i feel becuase of how much I miss him…Continue

Started by Nicole. Last reply by Martha Washburn Sep 22, 2022.

Loss of spouse… 3 Replies

For 40+ years we were together…married 39 years….We were to celebrate our 40th anniversary…Nobody who hasn’t been married, and lost a spouse could possibly understand….even though he was into many…Continue

Started by Susan B. Last reply by Connie Sep 1, 2022.

Today is the anniversary of my wedding day 2 Replies

I got married on May 1, 1992 and lost my husband on June 30, 2017. My wedding day was the happiest day of my life and if I had one wish, it would be to go back and live that day over. It has been…Continue

Started by Carol Klotz. Last reply by Carol Klotz May 3, 2020.

Lost my light in the darkness 2 Replies

I lost my wife on the 25 of March after returning from my Dads funeral. She is everything to me. No matter how bad it got, no matter how much my PTSD drug me down, She has been my light in the…Continue

Started by Shane Hughes. Last reply by Shane Hughes Apr 16, 2020.

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Comment by Shirley on December 20, 2016 at 8:47pm

Sorry I have not posted in awhile, but have been trying to take care of my older sister as she has several serious health issues.,, Lost my  first husband when he was 38 and  Lung Cancer took  his  life.   Had small kids to raise and with the help of GOD I did get them all grown.  Remarried many years later,  no kids here and lost him to five cancer areas in his body.  This was in 2014.  Has been almost three years and with the help of GOD I have learned to move forward with the knowledge that I believe all  of my family and loved  ones are "Resting High On That Mountain" in the presence of Jesus  Christ.. My Dad taught his children  (9) of us, that we are born  of GOD and we all have a LIFE CIRCLE.....We all are given a time limit, by our GOD, to be on this Earth and then we have to leave here and return back to HIM....We all will reunite some glad  day and never be apart again.... This teaching has let me understand the concept of life and what life it is all about.  Now this is my opinion and I do not expect or want anyone else to agree or argue with me regarding what I believe. So after losing  my parents, grandparents, family members. in laws, siblings,  friends and neighbors I have been given STRENGTH, COURAGE, COMFORT, PEACE and LOVE by my HEAVENLY FATHER, and am patiently waiting for my time to join each of them .  So take life as it is dealt to us and always remember we do have a CREATOR who is still in control of our life and everything and we must accept HIS PLAN.  Wishing everyone a Merry Christmas and a  Happy 2017. Stay safe and try o keep a smile for everyone you meet.    Shirley

Comment by bluebird on December 12, 2016 at 9:49pm

I have a prescription for Xanax, and I take it when I have a panic attack, but that has hardly ever happened since my husband died -- I think because his dying is the worst thing that could ever happen to me, and it's already happened, so while there are other horrible things that could also happen, his death is the worst, so other things don't really cause panic the way they used to.

I can't sleep at night unless I take something in order to do so. Most nights I just take two Benadryl, and that's enough to allow me to get about 5 hours of sleep on most nights, more or less. On the really bad nights I take a Lunesta (sleeping pill), and that does a better job of really knocking me out.

I drink something now and then, but it's rare, as I just don't like the taste of most alcohol. 

Comment by kathleen akin on December 12, 2016 at 4:59pm

I take pain meds that are opiates.  They do help the pain, but they don't make me feel emotionally better. I didn't know they had that effect on anyone.

I drink wine. Now that has an effect on how I feel. It's hard on my ulcer, but I don't really care.

Comment by Linda Engberg on December 10, 2016 at 12:47pm

Jan,

I asked my shrink and she said even though it's legal now, it will take time to train doctors to prescribe it.  Blah, Blah, Blah

Comment by Jan on December 10, 2016 at 12:41pm

I think weed is legal in FL now but I bet this condition isn't considered for this type of treatment.

Comment by Linda Engberg on December 10, 2016 at 9:13am

Jan,

It's the assholes in the state government that won't allow our therapists to give us an opiate I don't care if I have to take them for the rest of my life. I have no life now.

Comment by Jan on December 10, 2016 at 6:56am

You mentioned the one medication that helps that the U.S.  won't use for our situation - opiates.  When I needed that for another condition, I found my mood improved and I could almost function normally.  France and someone told me Canada use them in some of their depression therapy.  If there was a drug trial for that here, I would certainly volunteer.  Addictive?!? Aren't most of the medications they give us for depression addictive anyway?  It's the doctors job to monitor the doses - what's the difference with opiates? They even wanted to put me through some kind of brain treatment shock type therapy - TM??" - but my insurance doesn't cover it because it's so new.  There's no guarantee of any improvement either, yet I can tell them what does seem to help and am told they can't help me with that.  What's wrong with this picture?

Comment by Linda Engberg on December 10, 2016 at 6:32am

Michael,

I will be on this site forever, I am not ever going to get better.

Linda

Comment by Linda Engberg on December 10, 2016 at 6:29am

Jan,

I am so sorry for what you are going through, I have diagnosed with complicated grief, OCD and chronic anxiety, I have been on all different type of meds for 7 years, they just help me through the day. There is no pill for grief except for opiates, which she cannot give me. I will live the way I am for the rest of my life, I have accepted that and take one day at a time.

Linda

Comment by Michael on December 9, 2016 at 10:04pm
Jan
I hear you loud and clear.
 

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