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Comment by John T. on January 20, 2017 at 12:02pm

Kevin, for the first year I cried when I went to the grocery store and saw something that my wife especially liked.  I cried when I went to church because we went together for 25 years.  I cried when I saw a car like hers, when I saw a television show we watched, and couldn't even go near the beach where we took walks.  The list is endless.  After two years, I cried driving home from the dentist last week because I remembered her driving me home after having my wisdom teeth pulled.  She was worried about what I could eat for dinner and I could almost hear her.  I had to pull over for a few minutes.  After all this time things hit me out of the blue, sometimes for no reason other than there is such a hole in my heart.  The first year was like a foggy nightmare and the pain seemed constant.  I am amazed I endured it and made it this far.  It helped when I came to the realization she is still in my heart.  Take care of yourself.

Comment by Kevin Bailey on January 20, 2017 at 11:02am

I can cry at anytime of the day, anytime I see something or I'm doing something that we used to do together like grocery shopping or even going to church, I break down. Robin and Linda We all loved our spouses so very deeply and nobody has the cure to getting over grief. We're all different and I feel that somebody like John The Dragon who has obviously moved on from grieving from his wife doesn't need this site any longer so like Linda said, you need to respectfully move on. There's no steps or counseling that can ease this pain, the only thing we can do is learn to live with it, which I pray we all find the strength to do so. God bless you all.

Comment by Linda Engberg on January 20, 2017 at 10:50am

Dear Robin,

I thought the firsts are the worse, but I was wrong, it has been almost 4 years, and I miss him as if it was yesterday.

God Bless You, Linda

Comment by Robin Quinn on January 20, 2017 at 10:08am

One year today, I lost my love, my life, the pain never stops.  29 years, 11 months of my life was spent with him, I don't know who I am without him. If it wasn't for my children and grandchildren, I would have left this world months ago.  I found all the little notes and poems I used to write to him in a card I gave him for one of our first anniversarys,  he kept them all these years.  I miss him so much.

Comment by Linda Engberg on January 13, 2017 at 2:48pm

John the Dragon,

As my Husband used to say think before what say and put things in writing.

I still am insulted that you told us we are wallowing in pity. My Husband was my true soulmate and he will always live on in my heart and no other will ever take his place. 

You would do us all  a favor if you leave this site and go on with new life.

Comment by Louise on January 13, 2017 at 11:08am

John the Dragon, thank you for your apology; as you say, it is not what you wrote but rather the way you put it. You are very lucky that you managed to find someone you could love again and there is nothing wrong with talking about your hope and trying to inspire hope in others, that is a good thing. Unfortunately the tone of your message was antagonistic and did make some judgements on those who may be on a different path and that led to anger and trading insults on all sides. It is important for all of us to respect each other and try to be understanding and show compassion and empathy. Once again, thank you for your apology, and I am sorry for your loss and for everyone else who has lost someone. Hopefully together, we can all move forward and keep our anger in check, giving each other the support and comfort we all need x

Comment by Linda Engberg on January 13, 2017 at 8:10am

Dennis, Well said.

Comment by Dennis C. on January 13, 2017 at 7:09am

Here's a thought

Romans 12:10 — In brotherly love have tender affection for one another. In showing honor to one another, take the lead.

The best way we can help one another is to show respect. Dignify, and honor our fellow man.

When we acknowledge the pain of someone else even if we personally cannot understand, we position ourselves to offer comfort.

This is what I see as important. We need to COMFORT one another. We cannot take a persons pain away. We cannot offer them relief.
But we can comfort. We can let others cry without judgement. We can even cry with them.

Romans 12:15 — ... weep with those who weep.

Even if we feel that we have personally found the way...we need to give each person ROOM for their own personal struggles and pain, and just try to comfort. Not direct.

Comment by Linda Engberg on January 13, 2017 at 6:39am

John the Dragon,

The next time you go to church, pray God forgives you for your nastiness.

Comment by morgan on January 12, 2017 at 10:18pm

I have had a few short conversations with Richard Rivera and he is having a really rough time at the moment.  As myself and Michael suggested he has just now updated a GoFundMe page that he had before coming to this site to help pay for his wife's funeral.  

He has had the funeral but to make up for the shortfall used what little savings he had which was for his rent.  He is now facing eviction and just lost his job because of his performance under the stress of his grief.  

If you feel you want to help him just go to the GoFundMe site and search by his name.  I would link to it but I don't want to cross any boundaries that Diana may have in what she allows to be posted to her site.  

I am going to do little something anonymously and I don't think Richard felt he could ask himself so i am taking the liberty of asking for him.  Maybe just something to help get him over what we all know is the scariest time in the beginning when we are so lost and don't know where to turn.  

Just a way to help another person who is down at the bottom.  And we all know what that is like.  

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