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Comment by Linda Engberg on January 28, 2017 at 2:28pm

I do not want to move on, my life has already been lived with my wonderful Julian. All I live for is the day I can join him. Our last picture together before the horrid cancer took him from me.

Comment by Denise on January 28, 2017 at 2:14pm

Stacey, I can physically feel your pain.I lost my husband 7 months ago. You should be doing absolutely nothing other than what you are doing. People who want you to move on have not lost their spouses or someone who they loved dearly. Some days I am "ok," - Ok meaning I am not crying other days I am devastated. No, I am not moving on until I am good and ready. For now, I think since this is so new I  am taking it one day at a time in order to help myself and my two children.

Comment by Michael on January 28, 2017 at 12:07pm

Stacy,
I wish i could tell you what to do to move on. I find it impossible.

Comment by Stacey White on January 28, 2017 at 11:57am

I am so incredibly sad since my husband of 20 years past almost now 3 months ago. Now it is me and my 14 and 17 year old daughters to work through the pain and saddness. I feel frozen and unable to do anything. I can't seem to sit quietly or focus on anything. I distract myself watching tv constantly or searching genealogy data on the internet. People are already asking if I have "moved on" yet like I am taking too long. What should I be doing to move on?

Comment by Michael on January 28, 2017 at 9:12am

Chum
I also lie around for hours not doing anything. Its not great but i dont have much else to do or much interest. I did clean my house yesterday. Im three months in. I thought id be better by now. Nope.

Comment by Chum on January 27, 2017 at 10:24pm

Morgan, I felt as crushed as you must have felt when your SIL said you were melodramatic. God, what a thing to say.
Missing our partners aside, I wonder if living alone is easier for introverts than extroverts. I've always been a loner as was Jordan, probably why we got on so well. I don't mind the living alone at all but after a couple of weeks of not talking to a soul I make myself go out to the market. It's a constant battle between apathy and pushing myself to do something. I used to read a couple of books a week and find i can't settle to read yet can sit in the same place for hours not doing a thing. It's such a relief when I read other posts where people have the same apathy. Nineteen months in for me. No children and no family on this side of the world. A couple of really good friends though who don't care if I talk about life 'before'.

Comment by John T. on January 27, 2017 at 11:26am

Elynn, I have never regretted it.  It has worked out well and I can see it was for the best.

Comment by Elynn m on January 26, 2017 at 11:48pm

Sounds like the move was good for u, John

Comment by Elynn m on January 26, 2017 at 11:47pm

I have been thinking about renting my house out and staying with my sister and brother in law  for about six months, to see if I like it.  They have been asking me to.  Or rent my house and live in apt near them.   They r 600 miles away!   Any suggestions?

Comment by John T. on January 26, 2017 at 10:03pm

Michael, I forgot to mention I pay rent here and I'm helping them make their house payment.  Just so you know I'm not a freeloader.  The last thing I want is to seem helpless and I do everything I can (and probably more than I need to) to be independent.  I think they appreciate that and it means a lot to me.

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