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Comment by John T. on June 11, 2017 at 9:57pm

KIM, it's 2 years and 6 months or so since I lost my wife and in the last couple of weeks I've been finally tearing open boxes and trying to put things away where I live now.  It's taken all that time to even begin to look at the things in those boxes without crying.  I still avoid the Christmas boxes and am caught off guard when not prepared for some of the things I packed unlabeled.  I am exhausted physically by the slightest bit of all this and emotionally wrecked.  I'm determined to start keeping my living space clean again but it seems so overwhelming to do things that were once routine.  This is all so much to deal with but it does seem to distract me.  It took a long time to even get to this point.  I just swept up a pile of cat fur today that made a dust bunny so big it actually frightened our two cats.  It's been a long while since I did any cleaning and the cats were upset by the unfamiliar activity.  I hope I can keep going and get things together here, including myself.

Comment by Mary on June 5, 2017 at 8:38pm

Kim and Elvynn, your hubbies sound like my wonderful husband. He had the special way with people and doing things. I've missed him every moment of every day since April 26, 2016. The outside yard he'd do such a good job. This year I've been out there getting it all nice with him in mind. He's giving me the strength. Life is so empty without my NEIL. Gone too soon and so unexpectedly.

Comment by Elynn m on June 5, 2017 at 7:06pm

KIM,

     I'm sorry to hear about your liss.   My husband was on disability for a good part of our 40 years together....and I worked also.  I have no regrets..only wish that he were still here.   Joe was the backbone of our home.  He had wisdom that I could only dream of  having.  I miss joe's personal touch too. He always knew what to say, and what to do,  in our best interest .

Comment by Jules on June 3, 2017 at 6:24am

This is my first time here. I recently lost my husband suddenly and unexpectedly in April. I'm not sure how this forum works but I'm looking for grief group support. I'm lost and suffering so bad with the heartache. We were together 18 years! I have 3 children to raise on my own now and I'm struggling just keeping afloat for them and myself mentally! It's only going on 6 weeks for me this Wednesday coming up and I don't know how to continue going on without him when he is all I've known. I don't know if I could live another 5, 10 or more years without him

Comment by Elynn m on May 25, 2017 at 11:42am

Jackie,

   I know that your Shirl is still in your heart.    Whatever you do, remember that God is in charge.....He doesn't want you to go through anything you can't handle.....He will get you through this....all we can do is remember our loved ones for who they are.   Remind yourself of the good things you did together.   I know, that's easier said than done.   It will take some time, but you will get there.   About hopes and dreams.....all of us probably feel the same....and that's OK to feel that way.   God has given me new hopes and dreams, (which incidentally, include the wonderful man who went to be with the Lord before me.)   I find comfort in knowing that Joe is still with me.  He taught me so much during the 41 years I was with him!      

Comment by Jackie cooke on May 24, 2017 at 3:05pm

I'm sure your right, and Bisto bit better thank god, it's just at the moment I feel like I am loosing everything. All our plans hopes and dreams gone, just emptiness and loneliness. I can't remember her voice even. It's so hard x

Comment by bluebird on May 24, 2017 at 2:09pm

Jackie,

I don't know if your Shirl or my husband still exist, but I wouldn't assume that they don't because of your dog being ill. If they do still exist, I think they help when they can, but I doubt they have control over everything.  Of course you have the right to believe however/whatever you choose; I am just trying to offer another perspective and perhaps a bit of hope.

Comment by Jackie cooke on May 24, 2017 at 3:07am

I feel so alone, I don't think Shirl is with me. Everything is going wrong, Bisto our dog who was her world is poorly. I have to take her to the vets by myself, I'm terrified in case it's serious. She is my only reason for living now. Shirl would never let anything happen to her, so I know she's not here. Where is she when I need her the most

Comment by bluebird on May 23, 2017 at 9:58pm

Morgan, I feel exactly the same.

Kim, I'm glad this site is turning out to be good/helpful for you.

Comment by morgan on May 23, 2017 at 9:46pm

Does he remember me?  Does he know how much I hurt?   Why can't he come and get me?  I don't want any more of this life.  I'm tired and over it.....Please dear, come get me.

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