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Lost my husband the father of my kids and bestfriend . 6 Replies

  I lost my husband we were high school sweethearts we had plans and it was not suppose to be this way we had two kids together and I feel so lost and the pain i feel becuase of how much I miss him…Continue

Started by Nicole. Last reply by Martha Washburn Sep 22, 2022.

Loss of spouse… 3 Replies

For 40+ years we were together…married 39 years….We were to celebrate our 40th anniversary…Nobody who hasn’t been married, and lost a spouse could possibly understand….even though he was into many…Continue

Started by Susan B. Last reply by Connie Sep 1, 2022.

Today is the anniversary of my wedding day 2 Replies

I got married on May 1, 1992 and lost my husband on June 30, 2017. My wedding day was the happiest day of my life and if I had one wish, it would be to go back and live that day over. It has been…Continue

Started by Carol Klotz. Last reply by Carol Klotz May 3, 2020.

Lost my light in the darkness 2 Replies

I lost my wife on the 25 of March after returning from my Dads funeral. She is everything to me. No matter how bad it got, no matter how much my PTSD drug me down, She has been my light in the…Continue

Started by Shane Hughes. Last reply by Shane Hughes Apr 16, 2020.

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Comment by Linda Engberg on May 17, 2020 at 6:16am

Dear Morgan,

Thank you so much for your kind words. Losing Babie J was the last thing I had to love and she saved my life when Julian died. She was a 9 year rescue and it was pure unconditional love when our eyes met.

Now that I have no one in my life. I will do every thing in power to end my life.

Comment by morgan on May 17, 2020 at 12:10am

Linda,

I missed your post on Babie J.  Oh my, I am so sorry.  The sweetest unconditional love that a pet gives us is a gift that we never forget.  I lost our kitty cat a year and half after my husband died and it was grueling.  I can still see myself in the vets office.  

I can only support Joe and his suggestion about catching the right bus. None of us want to be here. It certainly doesn't seem to be getting any better in the way we view living.  But what if?  What if the connection needs to be made in the way the universe dictates it?  It's about the only thing that keeps me from taking the quickest exit.  

The pain we all endure we try to support each other in getting through another day, another month, another year.  It has been so hard to do this.  But maybe its true. Maybe Juian and Babie J are just waiting together at the right bus stop.  The one we are supposed to get off at. 

I care Linda.  I care that you are hurting.  If there was anything else I could say that would take that hurt away I would be saying it.  Just know I want you to be able to reunite with the both of them at the right stop.  All of us care.....

morgan

Comment by Marita on May 13, 2020 at 12:11pm

Linda, my heart aches for you. I am so sorry for your loss. We can never be prepared for the loss of a loved one!

Comment by Linda Engberg on May 13, 2020 at 10:52am

Thanks Joe, I am beyond words,

Comment by Joe Kelly on May 13, 2020 at 8:43am

I am so sorry for your loss of Babie Linda.  I know how broken you are now but don't forget about catching that right bus.

Babie is with Julian right now at the right bus stop waiting for you.

Joe

Comment by Linda Engberg on May 13, 2020 at 5:32am

Hello Friends,

Monday I lost my Sweet Babie J. Now I don't have anything to live. I will do everything in power to end my life. I just wanted to thank you for support. God Bless You All.

Comment by bluebird on April 25, 2020 at 7:48pm

Linda,

I agree; I died when my husband died as well, in every important way. But I know that when my body dies, whenever that may be and whatever from, my family will be sad.

As far as I'm concerned, there is no such thing as a "new normal" at all -- that asinine phrase needs to be jettisoned from the English language, in my opinion, at least when it comes to the death of one's soulmate/spouse/partner.  Whatever life the surviving spouse is forced to live is abnormal, there is no longer any such thing as normal (at least for me, and so many of us here).

Comment by Linda Engberg on April 25, 2020 at 6:28am

Hi Trina and Bluebird,

Nice to see you both online. For me personally the virus doesn't bother me. I already died the day my Husband, Julian died.  There is no such thing as a new normal for me. Take Care. 

Comment by bluebird on April 24, 2020 at 8:09pm
Thanks, Trina; good thoughts to you as well.
Comment by Trina Mamoon on April 24, 2020 at 8:07pm

Bluebird,

Good to hear from you. Yes, I know exactly what you mean, the need to want to isolate yourself alone at home after your husband's death. For so many of us, that seems the only refuge after our irreparable loss.

I hope you can see your mother soon and visit your sister and brother-in-law for dinner again. Unfortunately, with a sinking heart, it seems to me, too, that life will no longer ever be the same on this planet even after Coronavirus passes, because there will always be the threat that it could strike again. Take care. Sending good thoughts your way.

 

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