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Comment by Theresa on June 30, 2018 at 2:46pm

Brett, you mean guilt for not doing enough while they were here?

I guess because of the circumstance of my moms death, the only guilt I have is not getting there in time to the hospital it all happened so fast.

I guess maybe if I didn't stop at her house on the way, I would have been at her side...

Comment by Brett Bowman on June 30, 2018 at 1:40pm

I hope that you will have a great time, Avi.

I saw my grief counselor yesterday. She is a psychiatrist. We were talking about this site. I told her that guilt may be the overriding emotion. She nodded her head and said that guilt is the greatest issue that she faces when dealing with grieving people, and that it's unfortunate that so many people who have lost a loved one are so bound and determined to punish themselves.

That's a choice. We don't have to do that to ourselves. We each have to realize that we loved our moms with all of our hearts, and that we did what we could even with all of our foibles. I think only then can we start to find some peace. We will always miss them. That's natural. But the guilt is self inflicted.

Comment by Theresa on June 30, 2018 at 5:46am

Enjoy Avi!!

Comment by Avi on June 30, 2018 at 5:03am

Great to see Theressa.

Guys I am on my first vacation in almost an year. I am in Hyderabad, south of India with friends and trying my best to be happy.

Will post one pic as well

Comment by Theresa on June 29, 2018 at 5:45am

Mom was 91 here, and of course my dogs head is in the picture also.

I miss her so much, I said to my hairdresser yesterday I don't think I will ever get over losing her....

Comment by Theresa on June 29, 2018 at 5:42am

Ok I am On the right the girl on my left is my coworker who has moved to Indianapolis she was a lot of fun she was from Brazil

Comment by Theresa on June 29, 2018 at 5:33am

Thank you so much everyone, it means alot to me.

Well I am not photogenic, I wish I had a picture of my mom and I, but I don't, I will briefly post one of myself and then take it down, I hate pictures.  lol

I also am going to post my moms, it will be of her before church on Saturday evening she used to go to the 5pm mass.  She was something else.

Comment by Avi on June 28, 2018 at 11:06pm

Hi Crystal, 
Wishing you a very happy birthday. We have not talked in past. I am from India and lost my mom on 15 May 2018 due to stage IV cancer. 

I wish you have a wonderful day. 

Wishing Aunty Ji (Theresa's mother) a very happy birthday in heaven. In India, Aunty Ji means respected Aunty. 

Comment by Brett Bowman on June 28, 2018 at 8:50pm

Crystal, I think it's good that you do not dream of your mom as often. It may mean that she's not on your mind quite as much. And I think that means that you are healing.

You can tell so much about where you are in your grief journey by your dreams. My dreams about my mom are never good. That's a bad thing. If I ever had a happy dream about my mom, maybe I would know that I am making some progress.

Theresa, there is a reason why I asked what you and Bluebell looked like. I talk to you both so often. I want to know who I am talking to because you are no longer random names on a message board. You have become like family to me. You both have become a part of my daily life.

Comment by Crystal K on June 28, 2018 at 8:22pm

Thank you guys. Happy birthday to your mom Theresa.  Brett, I am dreaming of my mom less and less frequent. I wonder if it is our memories with them fading :(   I thank God for pictures but sometimes I know I am slowly losing the memory of her voice

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