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Comment by Theresa on July 25, 2018 at 6:02am

Wow Avi that is so great, she was probably right there next to you.

Comment by Avi on July 25, 2018 at 1:07am

I heard some voice Brett but it was like myself talking to myself but out of nowhere. I was sleeping with my shoulder underneath my head so that I tell myself that it is paining, then I woke up and yes it was actually paining. Then I changed my position. 

Comment by Brett Bowman on July 25, 2018 at 12:44am

Avi, that's wonderful. I'd like to know more. Did you hear a voice or was it just a feeling like your mom was near?

Comment by Avi on July 25, 2018 at 12:34am

Guys yesterday night was great experience. I was remembering my mom since I was on bed to sleep and in the middle of night I experienced some comfort like somebody is talking to me. It may be in dreams as well but it was something different. 

Comment by Brett Bowman on July 23, 2018 at 10:25am

Crystal, I hope that therapy will help you. I'm glad that you are being proactive.

Comment by Brett Bowman on July 23, 2018 at 10:23am

It was similar for me, Avi. I was putting my mom through too much. It had to stop. My mom was lucid. And she had rights. I nagged her a lot. If I couldn't get her to go to the ER, I would just sneak and call 911. I don't feel guilty about that. She would have done the same if it had been me, but towards the end when it became apparent that she could not be saved, I said, "Okay, mom." She had the right govern her own body. She was still lucid.

The lady I talked to. Her prognosis is bad. Treatment could not save her. It could only extend her life. I completely understand her decision. However, many forms of cancer are treatable, and if it's caught in time, I would hope that any reasonable person would undergo treatment.

Comment by Avi on July 23, 2018 at 5:08am

Thanks Crystal. Hope it helps you

Comment by Crystal K on July 23, 2018 at 4:56am

Hi guys I know I havent posted recently but I do keep up with all your posts. Still battling the same things. Ive decided to see a therapist to help me deal through my emotions.  thinking of you all ❤️

Comment by Avi on July 23, 2018 at 2:36am

Perfectly said Brett. 

We became so selfish at the end (as we love our moms so much that we always want them to be with us) that sometime we ignore their suffering. At least, I did that during the last few days. I even took her to a scan whereas the dr had given up. It caused lot of pain to her as she was extremely weak. 

She became very ill after blood transfusion so I will recommend that terminally ill patients should not be given blood transfusion. She stopped eating after it and even drinking became an issue. 

Sometimes I feel that after few rounds of Chemo I should have stopped further treatment and let her live the way she wanted. 

These shoulda woulda are hell. 

Comment by Brett Bowman on July 22, 2018 at 9:23pm

Virginia, no. She doesn't understand. Her mom is young and healthy.  She has no clue. Still, she could try to be more empathetic. She's in the process of being kicked to the curb.

I met a lady today. She has pancreatic cancer.  She has refused treatment. She wanted to know if there was a holistic way to beat cancer. There is not. She watched her dad go through chemo, saw what it did to him, and he still died. I completely understand. I wonder sometimes if my mom had it to do all over again if she would put herself through the years of treatment again. My mom fought five different forms of cancer. Tons of chemo and radiation. It just destroyed her body, but the alternative is anything but pretty. This lady just wants to have some quality of life before she dies. I hope that she will have it. I think there is an important lesson in this. We wanted our moms to do whatever it would have taken to live longer, to stay with us longer. But they were the ones who had to fight the fight.

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