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Comment by Alexandra on August 8, 2013 at 10:26am

It's been about 8 months since my mom passed away from a 2 year battle with bladder cancer. She was only 53 years old. Being in my mid 20's, I feel like I've lost so much. She was my best friend and now I don't get to have her there for any big moments in my life. The thing I'm having the hardest time with, is that I was always such a nice, positive person. Now I'm always angry. The smallest things get me so worked up now. And that's not who I want to be, and I know that's not what she would want either. I just feel lost.

Comment by Danny on August 8, 2013 at 4:42am

My condolences are with you Crystal.

Comment by Crystal Goddard on August 7, 2013 at 10:13pm

It's been a little over 2 months since my mom died and I feel the same as I did the day I got the call. Totally devastated and so so sad. I miss her so much and I just can not even imagine how I am going to get through the rest of my life without her. =(

Comment by Emily on August 7, 2013 at 8:37pm

Marie Brooks They don't appreciate what they have, they don't realize life can be too short, they don't understand that this is lost time til its too late.

Comment by Kristin Renee on August 7, 2013 at 8:27pm

Thank you, Marie. And thank you also to everyone here who has listened and offered their support ~ my sincere condolences for your respective losses.

Comment by Marie on August 7, 2013 at 8:07pm

Thank you. I am so sorry about your mom Kristin.

You are so right, they just will not know what they had until it is gone. I pray for them because I would not want them to feel the kind of emotional pain that I have endured these last few years since my moms death.

For me personally, I honestly cannot say that time eases this pain because as time goes on I feel further and further away from her and that hurts.

Thanks for listening. I am so grateful for this group as it has really helped me sort out a lot of feelings!

Comment by Danny on August 7, 2013 at 8:02pm

Look, to be honest we all have made mistakes. Idealizing oneself is not a good thing as well.  I do agree that often we take parents for granted and the feelings of guilt and regret are with everyone with a few exceptions of course. Research shows that the parent child relationship is one which wants both proximity and distance at the same time.

Comment by Kristin Renee on August 7, 2013 at 7:48pm

Tomorrow it will be 3 months since my Mom has been gone. You're right, Marie. It isn't fair. I see people taking their moms for granted or mistreating them and I resent them because they're so lucky and they don't even know it. I also would give anything to have my Mom back. Even just one more day, I'd give up everything if I could have one more day to make her happy and hear her laugh and hug her. How much I miss her and how much her absence has devastated me simply can't be overstated. 

To your question: I guess some people just won't know what they had until it's gone when they'll be filled with regret or they just don't care.

Comment by Marie on August 7, 2013 at 3:26pm

It's been a super long time since I have posted here. The days are moving along but this 3rd summer without her has been tough. My 21 year old sister graduated college. Mom saw her to school her freshman year, but wasn't here to see her cross that finish line. It was a joyous occasion but marked with sadness. It was surreal not having mom here.

Today I was speaking with my cousins who informed me that they are no longer speaking to their mother. They had some argument and literally cut the mother off...they even went as far as de-friended the mom on Facebook!!  When I hear things like this it makes me literally sick to my stomach.  I loved my mom dearly. Of course we fought but we loved just as much and I miss her every second of every day.  I would give anything to have her back. Anything!!

I know this is really bad to think or say, but sometimes I question why would my mom be taken away and other people who don't even value or appreciate or talk to their mothers, still have them here on earth. It's not fair.

And, what's somewhat even worse is that they (cousins) had no issue telling me this! I mean, can they at least realize that I don't have my mother and the fact that they are complaining about theirs is a complete slap in the face??

What is wrong with people??

Comment by Danny on August 6, 2013 at 4:37pm

Hang in there too Cindy. You are doing all the right things.  No rush.

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