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Comment by Leila on February 21, 2017 at 4:44pm

Bluebell,
From what I understand it is absolutely normal. Two years later I still cry daily. The numbness protects your wounded heart and soul for short periods (in my experience).

Comment by BLUEBELL on February 21, 2017 at 4:37pm

My Mom passed away on Valentines Day. I have been crying daily except for today. Right now I feel numb and tired. Is this normal?

Bluebell

Comment by Leila on February 21, 2017 at 4:03pm

Has anyone found particular activities that are therapeutic or bring you joy during your grief? I'm an artist, so even though I may be crying as I create, I find this outlet a true blessing. I also started feeding birds in my back garden, just outside my studio windows. I don't know why, but watching the beautiful, gentle songbirds (and even the squirrels) really lifts my spirits in a way nothing else does.

Comment by Leila on February 21, 2017 at 3:54pm

Theresa,
It will be two years in April since my mom went to heaven. I miss her just as much as the day she passed away. At times it feels almost unacceptable that she is isn't coming back. At this point I can do everything I need to do to get through the day, though I still cry privately about once a day. I can be with my family, go out with friends, travel, laugh, etc... However, I don't look forward to things in the same way I used to and beneath everything is always this permanent underlying sadness. I often bring my mom up in conversation, recalling happy times spent with her or talking about how wonderful she was. I've never seen any of my friends doing this in regards to their parents who have passed on, so I thought there must be something wrong with me. My counselor says this a method of keeping her memory alive and is a healthy way to grieve. She also told me that people like us (the ones who grieve so deeply we seek out resources like this group) were blessed with a very special, close relationship with our mothers that not everyone has. So in a way, our grief is a manifestation of the blessing we had with them when they were alive. I think about my mom throughout every single day. How can we not? How can we ever stop missing our beloved mothers who hold a space in our heart nobody else can fill? I suppose I don't want to stop missing my mom or feeling that familiar pain when I wake up each and realize all over again that she's moved on. To not feel it would be like she was truly gone in every sense of the word. I never want her to be gone. If people don't want to hear me talk about her, well, that's just too bad. I don't know if any of this makes any sense or is helpful at all, but I have similar feelings and your post stood out to me. Prayers going up for you!

Comment by Danny on February 17, 2017 at 10:22am

Theresa the pain may lessen but do work on the continuing bond with the parent, talk to your Mom and then you will feel better. Friends are not the right people.

Comment by Danny on February 17, 2017 at 10:20am

Casey i remember you. I dont talk about it with many people. Do my own grief work and talk to those who have actually been through a shock etc. Be well

Comment by Theresa on February 16, 2017 at 5:33am

Hi everyone, for me it is one year and two months

I am just as sad

I miss my mom so much, someone please tell me does the pain lessen in time.

Some days are so bad, I feel like the anxiety will never stop, I try to think of good times, but I seem to revert to my mom is not here anymore.

It is difficult when you have no one to talk to, my friends are tired of hearing it.

I pray that my heart will heal

Comment by Casey on February 15, 2017 at 1:18pm

Danny , I remember you. i think our mothers passed away around the same time. It will be three years on February 18 for me. It is very difficult for me as well. Its just horrible. I never stopped missing mom even though I post less here. It becomes just sort of whats the point of talking about it...everyone is sick of hearing about it.

Comment by Danny on February 15, 2017 at 11:58am

Miss you Mom every day every minute and its been 3 years...seems as if it happened yesterday..

Comment by Shellie on January 25, 2017 at 12:47pm

One other thing is bside grieving fir my mom I'm also grieving for my grandma she was like a mom.my family lived with her and grandpa most of my child hood live. So she was like a mom
My grandma passed on sept 19 2016. She had Alzheimer.
I had gotten a call from mom that morning saying grandma onlyvhad a week tovlive..my grandma lived in seattle and luckily my hubby and i was in seattle visiting some friends. After i got the call i went straight to the hospital to see grandma. Right after i got there the nurses checked grandma vital and they where very loe. The whole time i was there my grandma was sleeping.i knew she could hear me so i just kept talking to her..we spent a couple hours there but we had to get going we had a 8 hr drive back to idaho that night. We weren't even gone 1 hr before i was told she passed awsy..i thought i did something telling her it was okay to go..my ehole family kept telling me she waited for you so you could say your good bye. So having 2 very important lady live with in 3 month from each other hurts..i love you grandma and mom

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