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Permalink Reply by Kelly Husak on August 10, 2011 at 9:47pm

It might be because you don't live in the state he lived in (from what i can tell) so you aren't as used to it as you would normally be. I live in the same area my brother lived in, and it still hurts going to the store, because i remember going there with him with me. I'm sorry for your loss, i hope you feel better... ((hugs))

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Permalink Reply by adriana gonzalez on August 10, 2011 at 11:18pm

hi i understand you.. my husband recently passed away n we had just bought a house n honestly i had to get out of there ,,i was going crazy !!! sometimes i feel as if i have to go back but i really cant!! is so sad having to look for a new place when i have a home :(

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Permalink Reply by Lorin Cohen on August 11, 2011 at 7:54am

hi Chrissy..............I understand exactly how you feel - my dad passed in January of 2010.  We were very close - friends.  Unfortunately, my mom just died June 1.  Double whammy.

 

But, as far as my dad, I to remember going to the house-and I would cry - whenever I would go there - he would be looking out the window waiting for me - or upstairs waiting to hear the door.  He to would come running to the door - and I missed that very much.

I to missed that hug - that big smile - it hurt!!  It will take time for it not to be as intense.  Don't measure your grief - take it day by day.  A year is not that long of a time!!!  I to went from room to room - oh that was the chair he would sit in and ask me what was new.  And that room we................and here we...............I KNOW.

So FEEL his hug - let it embrace you - don't be afraid to offend your mother - I would open the hall closet and just smell his coats!!!  Sit on his side of the bed and just cry.  IT HURTS.  And you are allowed to hurt!!

 

And now my mom is gone to - and there is no one there.  So remember his warmth.................

 

 

 

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