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Permalink Reply by Michael on November 23, 2016 at 12:19pm

That is so awful. Welcome to our sad club. We are here for you.

Permalink Reply by Fran on November 23, 2016 at 12:34pm

Stacey, my heart breaks for you. You're right...you shouldn't be a 39 year old widow...anymore than any of us should be widows and widowers. And to have lost him just before the Holidays is like adding insult to injury. I lost my husband 2 years ago in November, just before the Holidays. It's a very difficult time. Everyone else wants to be happy and you can't figure out how to even get up and survive another day. My thoughts are with you.

Permalink Reply by Linda Engberg on November 23, 2016 at 12:40pm

Stacey,

So sorry for your loss, death is just unbelievable. I am not as young as you but I still cannot accept my life without my husband of 35 years. This is a wonderful site to help you through your grief

Linda

Permalink Reply by Charlie on November 23, 2016 at 1:12pm

Stacey, I am so very sorry and sad to hear of your loss.  The photo of the two of you is beautiful.

I lost my beautiful Dreamgirl eight months ago this past Monday.  This site has been an absolute godsend for me, and, as you can see, many others.  It absolutely sucks that you're in the position where you had to search us out, but unfortunately that's the reality.  Now that you're here, just know that you're not alone. This group understands your pain and situation in a way others can not.  It's the last group I would ever want to join, but now that circumstances have put us in this position, it's the best place to be (imho).

You're in my thoughts.

Permalink Reply by S.a.m. on November 23, 2016 at 1:54pm

I'm so very sorry Stacey. I am new to this group too...but I became a widow two years ago at age 41. No it is not supposed to happen. All I could feel was shock, numbness, denial, and despair..I was not in this world. You should not be a 39 year old widow.  I am so sorry. 

Permalink Reply by Stacey on November 23, 2016 at 1:56pm

My husband's name was Shannon so when it popped up that Shannon responded, I spazed a bit!

Permalink Reply by S.a.m. on November 24, 2016 at 7:43am

oh my goodness...I would have spazed too if my husband's name had popped up on a response ....and I will add that what others are saying is true for me too...this experience is very isolating and alienating and just knowing that you're not the only one going through it helps. hugs to you.

Permalink Reply by Irwin on November 23, 2016 at 1:55pm

So very sorry for your loss. Very heart-wrenching. One thing we all have in common here is that we share your pain. You can express your emotions and feelings in any way you feel and you will not be judged. My heart goes out to you. Your tears are my tears.
Irwin

Permalink Reply by Elynn m on November 23, 2016 at 6:00pm

Stacey,  I am so sorry for your loss. You are right,.... you are too young to have this happen.   And so drastically!   We are here for you.  Hope you can find encouragement here.

Permalink Reply by Andrea Rodgers on November 23, 2016 at 6:30pm

I am so deeply sorry for your loss, Stacey. I am new to this community and have found comfort in sharing this extremely painful journey within such a caring community. At times it helps just to know that we aren't alone. I lost my husband not quite 2 months ago very suddenly and unexpectedly as well. He was only 46 and now I am a widow at 42. We had only been married for 4 short months. All I can share in the newness of my grief is that there is love and humanity amongst us and embracing that seems to provide an inkling of hope on even the darkest of days.

Permalink Reply by ShingingLight1967 on November 23, 2016 at 10:55pm

Stacey!

I am so sorry for your loss. I have no words, but just hugs for you. I am so very sorry.