It still aches, but I am able to cope with it better.

I have cried my eyes out for a year and a few months since my adorable husband passed away.  We were married 44 years, and it was our second marraige and we were as close as any two could possibly be.  We did everything together.

All I can say is the ache and sadness is still there, but I am able to feel that perhaps I can start to live a bit better.  Do I ever stop thinking about him, NO.  But I am able to adjust and cope and even have moments when I can laugh again with close friends.  He has come back to me twice and has looked so young and so happy, that I feel he truly is in a far better place.  My love for him never diminishes, in fact it is stronger, but I do want to give hope to those who are still aching, crying and suffering.  It will get a bit better slowly and there is hope for all of you.

 

Your frind in grief

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Permalink Reply by Maura Simms on August 6, 2011 at 5:29pm

That is a really beautiful and encouraging tribute. Ricky was my second husband and I thought I'd latched on for the long haul and it certainly was another round of disappointment when I felt so happy and secure with him, and we only had 8 years together.  I keep reminding myself I must be grateful for the experience of having him in my life, no matter how short or long it may have been.  Afterall, counting years are meaningless in the cosmic clock; its the quality, not the quantity, no?

Permalink Reply by Annette Dominguez on October 10, 2011 at 2:55pm

It has been 9 months since I lost my husband to an accidental gunshot wound. I have cried almost everyday since January 1st when it happened. This message gave me hope that it will get better, it will just take a long time. I am SSSOOOO sad. I feel like I will never be truly happy again. I hope this is just part of the grief process because I sure don't want to feel this way the rest of my life. I am only 51 so I have many years ahead of me.

Permalink Reply by Anne Delina Johnson on October 21, 2011 at 7:02pm
Beautiful.  Thank you for sharing
Permalink Reply by Dorothy Holloway on March 12, 2012 at 6:35pm

Thanks for sharing Georgia,.

(((((HUGS)))))

I lost my hubby of 24 years last Oct to cancer.

This was my 2nd marriage also.

Dorothy

Permalink Reply by kathleen akin on August 19, 2016 at 5:24pm

That's what I keep hearing from people who have gone at least a full year or more after their lost. Its pretty much the only reason I don't end my life now. I have adult kids and grandkids and I know they are supposed to make me want to go on but I don't know why....they just don't. I wish they did. I love them and want everything for them but I feel like I'm on auto pilot and just acting all the time. My heart is always somewhere else.

Rocky was my 4th husband. The only one who cherished me and loved me and I can't believe that when I waited for most of my life for him he was taken. I will be 60 on my next birthday...I hate that. I just can't pick it up and move on. Too dang old.

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