Best friends

My best friend of 39 years died very suddenly this past June...she lived in another province for the past 13 years but she visited home every summer and we talked weekly, sometimes daily. Her funeral was held away ( we did have a memorial for her in her hometown) and her husband and children live away. I am feeling so removed and in such a state of denial because I didn't get to the funeral and didn't get to say goodbye. ..would visiting her home give me a sense of acceptance? A sense of reality? Is there a healthy way to grieve?

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Permalink Reply by dawn larvan on March 5, 2015 at 2:12am
Dear karla I'm so sorry you lost you're best friend,friends are so special and you sound like you loved her like a sister,going to her hometown can't do any harm so if you want to go I would go for it,it's not been long since last June you have to give it time I know because my husband died last may suddenly in front of me and I still don't believe it there's no right or wrong way to grieve but having people you love around you and talking about her will help,you will never forget her but if she could talk to you I know she wouldn't want you to be so unhappy you have to live your life for her as well now and make her proud of you
Thinking of you
Dawn
Permalink Reply by Sheree Slaughter on March 11, 2015 at 11:09am

I am very sorry to hear of your loss. I am going through a similar situation. My brother passed away very suddenly in October and lived in another state. We learned of his death by phone and learned of his cremation within 48 hours. We did have a memorial in November, but there seems to be no closure. It all happened so fast and still does not feel real. I haven't visited his home yet which may provide a sense of acceptance or reality. I think you should plan a visit. It may be helpful.

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