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Permalink Reply by Roger on February 4, 2015 at 7:01pm

Hi Jill,
I have found myself alone too. I lost my wife 2 years ago. My mom 6 months ago. It has been a very difficult time in my life. To say the least. I met my wife when I was 39. She was 35. Neither of us had children. She had been married briefly in her early twenties. But both of us had spent so much of our adult life. Without a significant other. It wasn't a blind date. I had done work at the office where she worked. Had met and spoken to her. In speaking with her boss ( Sarah) She asked if I would like to go out with Karla. I said sure. This was the beginning of the best 15 years of my life. We were truly soul mates. Were inseparable. I have so many wonderful memories of our time together. Can't wait until I can be with her again. I will pray that God will do for you what he did for us. Have faith and believe. Love can come out of now where. When you least expect it. I am sorry for the loss of your parents. Losing my mom devastated me. I know what the loss of a parent can feel like. This is a great site. Wounderful people that are grieving like us. Many alone also. Even though we are separated by great distances. We all are experiencing the kind of awful pain that comes with the death of our loved ones.

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Permalink Reply by Jill on February 5, 2015 at 4:40pm

Thanks for the prayers Roger! It's just been so hard lately and I feel like I will always be alone.

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Permalink Reply by JOHNNIESE "JAI" on February 11, 2015 at 7:31pm

I feel you and I can relate somewhat.  Just lost my dad on January 3 (my best friend, my hero) we chatted and walked when I was in Tampa literally everyday.  I got married (no kids yet) and in October 12, 2013 and he could not find a job in Tampa so I finally agreed to move back to Atlanta the end of July last year.  I cried so much about having leave my Dad.  He started going down soon as I left and I didn't find out he was ill again til October of last year.  I just want you to know I feel your pain and I know I don't know you but Know that there is someone here for you.  You can talk to me whenever, we are all hurting.  I am sending you a virtual hug and kiss from cold Atlanta, Ga.

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Permalink Reply by Jill on February 12, 2015 at 2:28pm

Thank you Jai it means so much. It's cold in PA too!!

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Permalink Reply by Sandy Hendrix on February 13, 2015 at 12:42pm

Oh Jill, I'm sorry you are having such a hard time, I wish I could give you a big hug!!!! I could use one today also x0

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Permalink Reply by Jill on February 20, 2015 at 4:39pm

Hugs to you too Sandy. Why does this have to be so hard? I was "ok" in the beginning weeks/months. Now everyone has moved on and forgotten that I'm still here. Still grieving.

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Permalink Reply by Sandy Hendrix on February 20, 2015 at 5:02pm

I know exactly what you mean.  I think people don't understand and I also don't think they know what to say.  I feel the same way at my office, everybody just goes along and acts like all is just peachie while I am dying inside.  It's so messed up that our lives are forever changed and people just go on with their lives. x0

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Permalink Reply by Jill on February 20, 2015 at 5:18pm

Yes! Sometimes my coworkers make me want to scream. Through no fault of their own, just the fact that they are complaining about some petty little thing and I'm over here thinking "hello....umm....I'm really not doing well. I'm grieving the loss of my parents and you are complaining about _______"

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Permalink Reply by JOHNNIESE "JAI" on February 21, 2015 at 7:04am

I was just having that same conversation with my sister a couple days ago.  Everyone has moved on now, in the beginning so many people were checking in, call, text etc. But nevertheless I know our loved ones still love us the same and soon we will get to a better place of coping and acceptance.  Just one day and one moment at a time..

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Permalink Reply by Danny on November 22, 2015 at 9:11am

great support here

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