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Permalink Reply by K.T on December 30, 2011 at 5:31am

Kaitlyn, I could have written most of this message myself. The only way I am coping now is because my Mum was an amazing woman who made me the strong person I am today. I'm so depressed and feel so hopeless at the moment, but I'm still continuing to work and study and I'm doing it all for her. 

I'm sure our Mums are looking down on us now and are proud.

Big hugs x

Permalink Reply by Ashlee on January 3, 2012 at 6:48pm

Hi Kaitlyn,

I also feel like I could have written your story. I'm only 21, and I lost my mom 6 months ago to lung cancer. I'm sure your mom would be proud of you regardless, especially because you've made it this far. I know that each day is different but count each day as one step closer to peace. They say things get easier, right?

I'm going to recommend a book that I bought off Amazon (I'm sure you can find it anywhere). It helped me immensely. It helped me understand my feelings, grief, and how to approach the future.  Here's the link to the book on amazon: http://www.amazon.ca/Motherless-Daughters-Legacy-Loss-Second/dp/073...

I hope that you find comfort, and that things start to look up.

Take care

Ashley 

Permalink Reply by Brette Stinson on June 30, 2012 at 12:25am

 Kaitlyn Patey,

I instantly felt like you were me and that I was in your shoes.  I don't know where your father is but mine was already in heaven when my mom passed in March of this year. I am also an only child and I was looking for someone that I can really relate to internally. We are going through the same pain, same struggle and same emotions. I feel like you could be my sister that I never had and we can support one another. I am so emotionally happy of this group and thank you for sharing.

Permalink Reply by Maria L. on July 23, 2012 at 10:15pm

Hi Kaitlyn,

I too feel like I could have written your post. My dad died 2 years ago when I was 19 and when he did I felt everything you described. I found out my dad died on a Wednesday, and the very next Thursday I had a test. I cried for hours, but then I stopped because all of the sudden I remembered about my test, and all of the sudden that test became the most important thing. So the very next day after hearing about my dad's death I went and took that test. I know I could have easily talked to my professor and explained and I wouldn't have to take it that day, but I didn't do that. I went and took the test. Yes, I had tears in my eyes the whole time, but I did it. I did it because I knew my dad would want me too. He is the reason I am the person I am today. I know our parents are so proud of us. Your right its very hard to find others who are going through what we are at our age. I'm so happy I found this group. Thank your for sharing. It's so nice to know I'm not alone.

Permalink Reply by Brette Stinson on September 5, 2012 at 11:10pm

I am only child to, so trust and believe I know exactly what you are going through and can sympathize with you. I hate being the only child and having to go through this alone. I will keep you in my prayers.

Permalink Reply by Melissa Drake on September 27, 2012 at 12:35am

Hi Kaitlyn. I know I am joining nearly a year after your loss but wanted to see how you were doing. I am a little old for this forum. Ok let's face it, I am A Lot old for this forum. I am 39 and lost my mom 11/2011 when she was only 60. I can say though, that as a mom myself I can most assuredly tell you that your mom absolutely wants you to be happy as possible. If/when you find yourself able to smile, please do so. Your smile is as sweet to Heavenly angels like your mom as warm sunshine is to earthbound souls like us. Find the light in the darkness even when it seems impossible.