In my young life, I've been through a lot, possibly more than the average teen. I dealt with my father's on going alchoholism and newly developed drug addition until recently when my mom decided to divorce him and took me with her, I lost my boyfriend to a horse related accident 3 years ago and I lost a close friend to leukaemia not even a year after my boyfriend's death. All this sounds like it would hurt me, like I'd be totally mentally messed up, but that's not the truth. A book I'm reading for the second time called the fault in our stars, has a quote in it that really hit home for me, And it goes like this:
"You can't choose if you get hurt in this wworld... but you do have a say in who hurts you" - the fault in our stars pg 113.
So yes I could let all this hurt hurt me, become this weight on my shoulders, but then I realized that 2 people really cared about me, and that was my boyfriend and my best friend. They would walk to the ends of the earth for me, so I choose to let them hurt me.
My dad, on the other hand, is drinking, doing drugs and sleeping with another woman and he says he loves me and wants to see me, but I won't see him unless he gets an intervention and agrees to get help for his addiction but he refuses. So I don't let him hurt me, that's my choice. We all have a choice.