I was reading the post about friends and family not really offering any support.Its awful when someone says "aww you,ll just get over it"Its hard for anyone to imagine what the loss of a love one is like.Its been a little over a month since my my wife died in hosp.Its just now Iam coming to grips with it.Thank goodness for this web site.Iam thinking of looking up other online support,groups etc .I don,t think I would be comfortable with going somewhere and meeting people just yet.I have my work which is good ,everyone is supportive.I think you have to plow forward.You carry the grief with you but thats alright.Like I said am at the stage where I want to find new activites and new things to do.Iam not a a stage where I can walk into a church or similair settingI never did have any friends.Now I realize the true value of friends.Well enough of that.

Everywhere I go I see my wife. I see her in front of the building where I work. I see the food she bought in the freezer I wait for her to come home and take care of me and "keep me in line"I cann,t do this by myself .However I realize Iam out here for better or worse.I still feel if I were to drop dead tommorow I wouldn,t care whats the point of living anymore

I go through these thoughts and then move on,battling the grief and the memories .Hopfully Ill break down accept the los and move on

Yes I can understand people not coming over.My only other support was my stepson. Not one day does anyone from family ever call.I feel Iam not even going to bother. "the hell with them" My stepsons words"I read your emails I don,t answer emails" I just want to tell him the effect he has.He does come though but not that often.This tells me if anybodys going to help me itsw going to be me,but at the same time give it time.