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Comment by Mary Catenacci on May 19, 2011 at 9:46am

You are in my thoughts and prayers. I lost my husband of 47 years, May11th, 2009. I wrote you a long email and it got lost in cyber land. That is so frustrating. I will recompose it a little later. Just know I share so much of what you are sharing here. Mary

Comment by Sherri Martin on May 12, 2011 at 11:34pm

Deborah, first let me say how sorry I am for your loss - especially a tragic, senseless one.  Know that you are not alone.  You are coming up on a milestone - the one-year 'anniversary' of his death.  It is normal to feel overwhelmed with sadness.  My husband suffered a massive heart attack just after Thanksgiving 10 years ago last year.  That date, as well as Thanksgiving and the holidays are still difficult for me, as is his birthday.  I met and fell in love with someone new 5 years after his death and remarried, but that doesn't erase the love I still feel. I still vividly recall the night he died- with all the details.  It does get easier to cope as time attempts to heal our loss, but I find I need to accept the feelings of sadness and loss as they arrive from time to time - most commonly on the milestone dates.  May I suggest that you do something in his memory on the 31st to honor the life you shared and the life he lived.  Whatever you decide to do is your choice and should feel right to you.  May God bless you gently during this difficult journey.