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Comment by Joanne Welch on May 8, 2012 at 9:08am

I'm sorry for your loss.  I lost my husband on the same day.  I understand what you're going through.  It feels like the world ended that day.  He was my best friend and the only one who understood me.  There are so many little things that happen throughout the day that I just want to tell him about.  I know all he wanted was for me to be happy and I'm trying to remember that but it's so hard.  Everyone keeps telling me to make sure that I eat and take care of myself.  I read somewhere that the best way to honor and remember those we lost is to take care of the ones they loved, including ourselves.  Hopefully you'll find a way to deal with the pain.  You're not alone. 

Comment by anna l. on May 8, 2012 at 1:57am

Hi Renee, Im so sorry for what you are going through.  It has been almost a year for me and the hurt of not having my husband with me is still strong, but there is a calmness now that I didnt feel would come to me but has.  These are early days for you.  No doubt you are still in shock.  Some advice...  Try to eat at least one healthy meal each day even if you can only stomach a few bits, try.  You need to fuel your system and stay healthy.  Try to get outside every day for a walk.  It will help digest the food sitting like lead in your stomache but also it will make you get showered, dressed and breathing fresh air.  And dont be afraid to ignore everyones advice, including mine if you just need to do it your own way as that is the only way you can make it.  Your grief is your own, so your journey will be unique as well.  You do have friends here who understand.