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annoying things people say..
i know there is one of these in the i miss my son or daughter forum but i wanted to write a few that have really p****d me off
The worst is the people who say it will be hard but you will get over it eventually
- no, you dont "get over it" you learn to live with it a little. i dont even want to get over it.
Some people have said "at least he didn't have to grow old"
- What? Because that's a bad thing?
the past tense.
- it annoys me how easily people can use my dads name in the past tense, it shouldnt be so easy.
an ex friend of my 17 yr old sister was telling people that my sister didn't care about my dad because she had gone back to work already and that she never cared about him anyway
its funny because things always annoy me but now i come to write them down i cant seem to remember as many..these are all i can think of right now.
The worst is the people who say it will be hard but you will get over it eventually
- no, you dont "get over it" you learn to live with it a little. i dont even want to get over it.
Some people have said "at least he didn't have to grow old"
- What? Because that's a bad thing?
the past tense.
- it annoys me how easily people can use my dads name in the past tense, it shouldnt be so easy.
an ex friend of my 17 yr old sister was telling people that my sister didn't care about my dad because she had gone back to work already and that she never cared about him anyway
its funny because things always annoy me but now i come to write them down i cant seem to remember as many..these are all i can think of right now.
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Comment by dream moon JO B on May 6, 2014 at 3:55pm
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it mks me mad wn thy send my dad pots thy do
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iv had a lot of stuff it gets easy dose it sh't it dotn get easy
its yore falt yore dad died did not hlo me
i got asket r u happy yore dads died im lk no i dont lk any 1 dying i lk evry 1 2 liv
it a funrell r u happy 2 bw at a funrell im lk no hw can any be hapy it a funrell
u cud do a comdey shw stuff peple say 2 anyoy us u cud
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Comment by Kate on September 23, 2009 at 10:20pm
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I got some more!
The doctor told me the counsellor was reserved for serious cases!
The counsellor on an 0800 free counselling phone line told me the line was for crisis' .
I accepted both of these ridiculous comments and found myself feeling like my problems can't be that bad... but I'll keep looking for someone to help me/ offer support, I have to keep looking.
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Hi Benny,
thanks for that I totally understand,
heres one for ya -: "these things happen." they mean shut up and stop winging.
We are allowed to grieve, to be sad and mourn the death of our loved one.
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Comment by Katie Grace on September 15, 2009 at 7:23pm
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Yeah I definately have a few that rub me the wrong way as well...the one that bothers me the most is "well everything happens for a reason." Maybe its because it sounds so cliche to me and although its meant to cause comfort, it just causes confusion because its what people say when they dont know what to say
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Comment by Gail Richardson on September 14, 2009 at 1:24pm
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Heidi - keep your Mum's name in the present tense - I keep my daughter's name in the present tense even now 8 years on. And you are quite right - they will always be present in our hearts - love and hugs to you Gail x
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Comment by Heidi Ray on September 14, 2009 at 11:31am
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The past tense thing really makes me mad but, when I talk about my Mom in the present tense I sometimes feel like people think I am loosing it....I feel like talking about her in the present because she is present in my heart.
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"I lost my daughter to leukemia, and the pain changed my life forever. Learning to live with this loss has not been easy, but I chose to turn my grief into something meaningful.
Today, I create oil paintings on canvas of loved ones who have passed…"
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Today, I create oil paintings on canvas of loved ones who have passed…"
"I lost my daughter to leukemia, and the pain changed my life forever. Learning to live with this loss has not been easy, but I chose to turn my grief into something meaningful.
Today, I create oil paintings on canvas of loved ones who have passed…"
"I lost my daughter to leukemia, and the pain changed my life forever. Learning to live with this loss has not been easy, but I chose to turn my grief into something meaningful.
Today, I create oil paintings on canvas of loved ones who have passed…"
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