Iam afraid to change ,shy,scared etc. However doing things on your own are good ,gym,walking ,paying attention to your health.This afternoon put some of her clothes in a box,not good ""emotional crash"however, I think,Iam able to push thru grieving spells,its the worst like waking up from a nightmare and finding yourself in a box but eventually finding a way out.Ha! only to have  grieving spell repeat its self.I read eventually the worst of the spells go away,keep busy