Brenda Doughty
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  • Pittsburg, KS
  • United States
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About Me:
49 full time Social Work student, married 13 yrs, no children. Live in Kansas. Work with individuals with intellectual and developmental disabilities. Have one spoiled rotten K9 unit named Rascal Jane.
About my Loss:
I am approaching the one year mark of my husband's death 11/20/2011.

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Approaching the year

So if you hear that one year is the magic date, I'm here to tell you that has not been my experience. If anything I find things harder than they were before. There are days I feel crazy. Okay one minute, a train wreck the next minute. Buckets of tears and a lot of pain. I miss Michael so badly and my heart feels like it has been broken all over again, or that that the healing that had begun was ripped…

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Posted on October 24, 2012 at 3:59pm — 3 Comments

Valentines Day is gettin' to me

I have come to hate retail valentine's day assaults. I thought it was because I'd miss not having Michael's special gift this year, and in a way I was right. It is the gift of him that I miss, not the things. I keep finding little things like text messages, notes and little belongings of his and sometimes this sadness just washes over me. There are a lot of changes with me; I am having to move and downsize my living space by 3/4 so a lot has to go. It's hard right now. Just wanted to say I…

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Posted on February 6, 2012 at 1:50pm

Today is weird

Just a few minutes ago I was enveloped by a wave of grief. I know that it is partly due to me making plans to move closer to school and I am frankly lonesome today. It had been a relief for the last couple of weeks for the knot in my middle to have lessened in its intensity. Today I feel shaky and tired but I know like I know my name that it will be okay. It's just an odd day.

Posted on January 13, 2012 at 9:51am

And time rolls on

I am visiting with family and it is strange being here without my husband. I am glad that I made the trip; just really feeling conspicuous and a little tired. Lots more memories without him here.

Christmas was surreal but I was surrounded by love and it helped so much. I miss Michael still but it is not the knot in my gut that it was. I have…

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Posted on January 2, 2012 at 10:54pm

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At 1:05am on February 8, 2015, Joseph G. Bartlett said…

hello hope this finds you in a good place  me my self have been away  for a while as I see you have to    so I'll stop here  and say thank you  for you kind words  yes   I'm 47 this year  june 24 and I never thought I'd be with out my love either  it's funny weird  and sad all at once   take care  if you write me I'll write back  promise  take care   god bless 

At 5:22am on October 30, 2012, Joseph G. Bartlett said…

wow  your almost a  year huh? i cant imagine how im gonna be when i get there thats scary im only 45 days in   thank you for your  kind words  there needed  at this time   13 years married we made it to 14 but also we were  2gether for 26 yrs thats the hard part for me its more than half of my life im 44  years old and just cant figure out what to do enymore now that im alone  well enough of that for now thank you so much  for writing me plewase keep incontact  enytime   joseph

At 5:54am on October 26, 2012, Brenda Ann said…

I agree, Brenda is a great name. My profile picture is of my father in law.  He passed away two years ago, the other picture is of my brother in law who died of a pancreatic cancer take over Sept 5th this year. Thank you for asking.

Our family is still reeling for the swiftness by which pancreatic cancer took Roger - less than one month. There is no early detection with pancreatic cancer. But this does not compare to your situation. How are you coping? 

Brenda

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At 5:16am on October 25, 2012, Joseph G. Bartlett said…

im am sorry 4 your loss i know you must hear that a lot trust me i do  to and i hate it but im only 40 days in on my 365 day year  so far im holding things together while watching everything fall apart in my life  and this sudden death thing really sucks for me because it make me feel like in a way my wife was murdered we never knew including her that she had this just one day at one moment she was talking and stuff the next she was gone like a light switch i dont know how your michael passed or if your at that point  to talk about it but if you ever need or want some one to talk to im hear for you ok once again thank you  for the kind words  my prayers are with you

At 6:34pm on December 21, 2011, Cathy Volenec said…

Hi Brenda, so sorry for your loss, I also lost my husband fast, he died instantly while trimming tree branches, he fell and I never saw him again.  It has been a year for me and he was the Love of my Life and best friend, those  first months were so painful I didnt think I could make it.  But with the help of family and a few close friends they helped me through the pain. I know it seems like it will never get better, but believe me it will, baby steps.  It never goes away, but it does get better little by little. and it helps to talk to other people about it, when you share your pain it makes it more validated. hope this helps....Cathy...I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts

At 6:47am on December 9, 2011, Robin Jone said…

Hi Brenda, I am so sorry for your loss. I have not experienced losing a spouse but have lost many loved ones. I lost my son, Zach, on September 3rd and am having a hard time accepting that he is gone. You are in my thoughts and prayers. hugs. Robin

 
 
 

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