Faith definitely helps. I am glad I had my faith as well during the loss of my loved ones.
Jessica, I am sincerely sorry for the loss of your father. I too lost my father to cancer, but I lost my mother to cancer when I was 12yrs. old. I know the pain you are feeling. You are not alone. Always talk about your feelings to someone who cares or to all of us on this site.

i feel like everything is crashing down all around me....its bad enough to lose my mom, but i am having several other things happening that are too life changing at the same time....this is just so much more than I can handle....why I have to go through all of this I dont know.....everything that was good in my life is now lost, I must have a black cloud over me....you know a person can only take so much, especially at one time

Prob 2 of the biggest things I feel is : Missing my dad's hugs (and going to school where my dad worked...) + Feeling alone in the sea of people. Even w/ my roommates at college, I feel SO alone, I have times of laughter but deep in my soul I feel SO alone [even tho i have Jesus] Ugh. Grief and Loss sucks! Wish I didn't have to deal w/ this. I'm not looking forward to Easter break-- it would've been my dad's year for Easter(my parents were divorced) && it will bring back all last year's memories of the 10 days before he died. I dont wanna go thru my b-day... I just feel so lonely. I wish I had him again. I dont miss him putting me down or hurting my family but I miss his smile, his eyes, his hugs, his cards...

Judy--I am sorry for your loss. I feel the pain you are experiencing trying to manage your life through this transition without your husband. There is no set time for any of us to start feeling normal again or to move through each day with ease and free of pain and heartache. It will come eventually, I promise. I don't know what it is like to lose a spouse, but I feel death is something we experience, the pain is there no matter the significance of the person in our lives. I lost my mother when I was twelve yrs. old. It was the most horrible time of my life. The pain was unimaginable. I watched her body become frail and week from all her treatments. I watched my family become so unraveled that I wanted to run away from the pain. It isn't easy. You have to find a way to succomb to the emotions. Let the sorrow out and take each day as it comes. Try to become whole again (slowly) not just for you, but for your family. You know your husband would want you to live the rest of your life at peace and happy. It's hard, I know. I lost my father and only brother to cancer as well and I can honestly say it has been difficult, but I have come to terms with their deaths. I chose to live, not forgeting my loved ones, but to live my life in honor of them, because they can't. I chose to be and do all they would have if they were still alive.

Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers and everyone else who is reading this.

I also have alot of my mom's things....her favorite blanket, and this might be weird it still smells like her, and somewhat its comforting, but it can be haunting some too....I have alot of her things, but they dont affect me much....the blanket does though, I have it on the bottom of my bed...she would always curl up with it, and its a vivid memory....keeps me close to her

We walked hand in hand thur life. Happiness and love all around us making each day a blessing so many things we did together an as a family you were our rock you made my life complete... then came the sorrow and pain when we learned that cancer had invaded our lifes. Now were left trying to put the pieces back together but they dont fit like they use to there a large whole in my heart the pain so bad at times sorrow dont beging to cover how i feel with out you here holding my hand you could always make me laugh when ever i cried with a look or just a hug the love and joy fading away and all that left now is sorrow and pain. I keep finding things around the house that remind me of all the love and joy we shared and i try to hold on to that but sometimes i just want to hold on to you to feel your arms around me to hear your laughter to know that your not in pain anymore you were my life for over 25yrs and now having to learn to live with out you is so painful.... Been told to move on with my life but my life stopped with you. You taught me to love and belive in love you gave me so much including our childern thru it all you have been here with me now that your gone i dont know how to go on the pain and sorrow that sweeps over me each time i think of you is unbearble at times i hold on to our wedding photo at night the only way i can sleep, its not the same as holding you in my arms. I pick up teddy bear and think of you and how you laught when you told me that if i ever need a hug and you werent there that teddy would keep me safe till you came back to me i keep him with me always wishing you were here... I cry and scream at god and the drs for not being able to help for letting this cancer take you from us till i cannt talk anymore sometimes it makes me feel better other times it hurts so bad. Happiness joy love pain and sorrow hand in hand thur time if i could come to you i would for that is when i shall know the joy of love again when i see your smiling face hold you in my arms again only then will i be able to live again you are my life no matter what thats what i keep thinking that no matter what we will be together again and when that happens i will never let you go again your the other half of me your my joy happiness and love of my life i miss you ...... i still ask why you why not someone else to go thru this why you when there so many others who have taken lifes with guns and drugs dose god have to take the life of a man with so many who loves him and needs him i just dont know how to accept that your gone ..... I feel only pain an sorrow now ive cried a river of tears over you and still i cannt stip crying the pain is still so bad that at times i must stop just to get my breath if anyone had told me that my world would end like this i would not have belived them not iam a empty shell with out you i go thru the montions but nothing seems right anymore just giving up trying to deal with the pain and sorrow they take a up a large part of my day now at night its worst than anything i ever lived thru the only thing that helps is holding on to teddy and thinking of you as i lay curled up in an ball waiting for my life to end so i can be with you..... Tried to drink you off my mind that didnt work to well at all so now i sit hear or lay in bed thinking of you how i can hear your voice telling me that you love me making me laugh god i wish you were here i would gladly trade places with you if only i could so tried of being strong for everyone so tried of doing everything by myself just want to be with you to feel whole again ..... you helped me learn to love you showed me happiness and joy then came the pain an sorrow of losing you you told me to trust in us now what do i have to trust in now that your gone.... I feel so empty with out you so full of pain and sorrow and yes hate for the cancer and for god letting this happen i know i shouldnt feel that but sometimes its all i can feel you promised me a life time together t

Anyone who knows what I feel like, please let me know. I need to communicate with people who know how I feel. My brother was 45yrs old. His life was robbed from him right before our eyes. We were helpless. He couldn't even talk at the end. At the end, he went into the hospital 12/26/10 and died on 3/30/10. So Fast. Before that he was healthy, always took care of himself. So those people who say that he isn't suffering anymore. 3 months!!!! I just can't hear that right now, along with "it will get better". Well IT'S NOT GETTING BETTER.