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Comment by Laura Villarreal on September 5, 2009 at 6:11pm

Hey Jan,

Thank you for your condolences...
The hardest thing for me is the confusion within. "She can't be gone", "She is gone", "No, it can't be"...
We were so close even though she lived in Alaska with her husband (she was born and raised in Texas where I still live). We talked everyday, several times a day. They had no children. I raised her as a single parent so we had many trials and tribulations through the years but we loved each other so much and were not afraid to say it each time we hung up the phone. She was the perfect daughter and now she is my perfect Angel.
One day we can share our collection of stupid comments-I know people mean well but the comments which makes me want to slap someone is when they say "I know it must be hard" or "I know how you feel...yet they have not experienced the loss of a child". Hard?? I have found no words to describe the gut-wrenching, heartbreaking and devastating pain we feel. I wish they would just say "my thoughts and prayers are with you".


Thank you for listening. I would love to hear about your daughter if you would like to share a bit.

Laura

Comment by Stephanie on September 5, 2009 at 5:49pm

hi laura, so nice to hear from you. im so very sorry for your loss. as far as the stupid things people say, i even started writing a brief BOOK on "Things people say"! some - the stupidist things imaginable. but i really feel this is the best kind of place we can talk, and yes, learn how each other deals with our pain. hope to talk a lot. wishing you strength. love jan

Comment by Laura Villarreal on September 5, 2009 at 5:29pm

Hi Jan,
I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter. I too believe the bond between mother and daughter is so special it cannot be described. My 33 year old daughter was killed in an ATV accident on May 25 of this year~she was my only child~ and I too am devastated. There are also no words to describe the pain I feel everyday. I no longer cry everyday but I feel so confused and alone. So many people expect me to "be over" her death by now. Needless to say I avoid contact with these people. I come here to share and learn how others deal with grief, to get support and give support. I love my daughter so much and miss her even more...

Take care and hope to hear from you soon.

Sincerely,
Laura

Comment by Stephanie on September 5, 2009 at 4:10pm

hello everone. im new here. im jan. i lost my daughter on 24 April last year (2008). she had Cerebral Palsy. she and i fought for her life continually. we bonded more than imaginable. we had endless times "living" in hospitals. but we had even more times loving life, loving each other, laughing. at 12 years old, she just couldnt anymore. i just wanted to say hi, and meet with people who might be going through similar pain. i am devastated. but i have to be super strong as i have another 3 children, aged 6, 9, and 11, who are traumatised and needy. i want to cry all the time. anyone i can talk to? thank you so much, jan

Comment by Gail Richardson on September 5, 2009 at 4:36am

Comment by Laura Villarreal on September 4, 2009 at 8:50pm

Gail and Ann,

Thank you for your heartfelt comments. I have written so many poems these last couple of months~it helps to cope with the pain and confusion of her death. Hope you are doing okay and finding just a bit more peace in your heart with each passing day.

Comment by Ann Edmondson on September 4, 2009 at 8:34pm

Laura ~ what a beautiful poem. I also love the name of your daughter.

Comment by Gail Richardson on September 4, 2009 at 2:21am

Laura - sending you a million hugs and hoping that today will pass more brightly. Sadly, there will be many moments like these - especially during the first year. Whilst we 'think' we are over the worst - our heart and mind can tell us quite the opposite. I'm just on my way out to work but will drop by here later. xx

Comment by Laura Villarreal on September 3, 2009 at 7:35pm

Three Months

Damn it, damn it, damn it to hell, I was doing okay, feeling pretty swell.
Looked at the date, August twenty fourth; no special meaning that I could tell.

Why am I feeling so utterly sad, not all that good, just a little bad.
No missed appointments, no special occasion, perhaps a meeting with my dad?

No that's tomorrow, Tuesday he said, so why am I feeling all this sorrow?
Is there something to return, something I kept, but only meant to borrow?

Got on with my day, lots to do, that's when it hit me, it's all about you.
My baby, my child, my little girl, three months tomorrow, don't know what to do...

From this earth you have taken your leave; I still find this really hard to believe.
When you were alive I knew what to do but now all I know is how to grieve.

A piece of my heart is gone forever but my love for you will leave me never.
From womb to the grave was only 33 years but life with you was joyous endeavor!




**Though Angela was 33 years of age when she died, she will ALWAYS be my baby. The imprint on my heart is that of a smiling, laughing child, making her way through life helping others. I will say it over and over...like all of us she was not perfect but she was the perfect daughter! Rest in peace my little one...watch over us as you have always done.
Angela Diane: May 10, 1976-May 25, 2009

Comment by Kar on September 2, 2009 at 9:36pm

Just wanted to say Hi to everyone & send you all Love...
I haven't been to the site in quite a while- I am just really struggling & don't feel like I am helpful to you. But, think of all of you everyday!
(((Much Love and Hugs)))

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