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Comment by Dick on July 19, 2012 at 9:27pm

Sue, my oldest is a Naval Aviator...I have stress of what could happen to him. 

Comment by Sue D on July 19, 2012 at 6:32pm

Dick, Iam very sorry for the death of your son. Your tribute to him is very touching. Our daughters' one year anniversary is next month, and I'm not sure what we are going to do. My husband and I went to a local restaurant for our son's one year and toasted a beer to him. He loved trying new beers with friends. Both of our children were 26 when they died. We buried them together in a green portion of the cemetery which is natural woods. We had to walk through tall undergrowth to get to their graves, and I spent that time talking with them in the midst of the trees and nature. It is a comforting place. I was struck, as I always am, anew by the stark reality of their deaths by the grave markers laying side by side on the wooded ground. Their names scream at me that they are gone! BOTH of them! In the space of 8 months from each other! How unfair, how terribly unfair. I want to gt a small tree trunk to put out at their graves, and yet, I don't want to spend that much time there. I still cannot believe they are gone, and our lives as parents are over. No grandkids, no future stories of their jobs or lives. Just memories, and as you say, the pictures that will never age. Hugs, Sue

Comment by Dick on July 19, 2012 at 6:34am

Here is the memorial website I made for him.

You will always be remembered

Comment by Dick on July 19, 2012 at 6:29am

http://www.onlinegriefsupport.com/video/daniel-my-son-you-will-alwa...

Comment by Dick on July 19, 2012 at 6:28am

It is not courage, something else. I have summoned it and i will return his best friends call today and discuss a memorial for Danny at the 1 year mark.

My happiness now is so many people have viewed his video, thanks.

Comment by Dick on July 19, 2012 at 6:25am

The photos do not age bothers me as well.

Comment by Dick on July 19, 2012 at 6:24am

I don't think we should be sorry of the new relatonship. It is just a marker for me that Danny is not in our physical world any longer. Just a reminder to me. It just saddens me Danny is not participating in our life any longer in a physical way.

Comment by Michelle W on July 19, 2012 at 3:28am

Dick, I'm so sorry to hear of the new relationship... Your right life does move on around us... I feel like its been days maybe weeks since the accident it's been months almost eight... Every day is harder at times I just feel like I am alone and no one knows or understands the pain and confussion...and then there are times I think of my beautiful son and know he would want so much more for me ...my husband and I don't talk to much anymore unless it is a casual statement about nothing ...I'm suppose to be a stronger person... I'm not ... I lost my sunshine...my daughter is angry that she "had to move home " to help me ... I just see her pain and thought we could help each other.. I was wrong ...so I cling to all your and others words to know I'm ok... So I hear you and feel you.. It just breaks my heart like everything else... I love the idea of the bench I think I will look into doing something simular.. It just seems like such a special connection thank for the ear.. Hugs... Michelle

Comment by Dick on July 18, 2012 at 11:12pm

Apparently, life moves on. My son's girlfriend has a new relationship now. Life moves forward.

Comment by Dick on July 18, 2012 at 9:19pm

Well, late yesterday evening around dusk, I was laying on the bench in the church garden looking at the sunset and talking with Danny. The police came by and thought I was drunk or homeless. When I told him the bench was my son's memorial and I was talking to him, he just said "Sorry" and went on his way. I guess he thought I was crazy???

I am within 30 days of one year without Danny. It is getting hard, I am weeping a lot. I try to tell Danny I forgive everything and I love him so much. I just don't feel like a father any longer, I feel washed up. I should be celebrating his marriage or birth of a grandchild. It has been stolen from me. I am saddened by the current situation that I cannot change.

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