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Comment by Jane P on April 25, 2013 at 2:23pm

Thank you Ammy. My daughter died Dec 2, 2012. I have been through her death and funeral, Christmas Day, Valentine's Day, Easter and tomorrow is her 26th birthday. Sometimes it seems too much to bear.

I am so sorry for your loss. Very tragic. You are very kind to take the time to help us that are newer to this process. Bless you.

Comment by Ammy on April 25, 2013 at 10:13am

So much pain being expressed here.  I am worried for some of you.  Especially the newer members.  We do not want another Sandy here.  You that have been here longer know what I'm talking about.

I want to say that there isn't a morning and times throughout the day that I don't think of my son.  I expect it will always be this way, but for those of you that are new to this grief I will tell you that it will become less intense as time goes on.  Then on some days or even weeks it will become more intense again.  I guess that's why it's described by so many as a roller coaster ride.  Once you get on this roller coaster you can't get off, but you adjust to the ebb and flow.  You learn how to let yourself be sad knowing it will eventually ease.  At least I hope this will be your journey to some healing.  

I am only expressing my feelings and experience.  Others may not have the same, but I want to give you hope while you are feeling there is no hope.  Remember, it is sometimes one minute at a time, one hour at a time, or even a day.  Just go with it.  Allow yourself to feel whatever you need to feel at that moment.  To fight it only makes it harder.

I don't believe we all grieve in exactly the same way, but our loss is  the same.

I truly believe that my faith has helped me.  I know it's hard to have faith when something like this happens to us, but for those of you that do believe, lean on that faith knowing that one day we will be with them again.

Jane, you are right when you say no one that has had this loss understands.  Only we understand and we are here for you.  We are here (I hope) for each other; just as we are here for ourselves.

My thoughts and prayers are with you all each and every day.

Sending hugs.  ❤

Comment by Jane P on April 25, 2013 at 6:37am

I am so sad for all of us. Our child is gone. Life is empty. No one understands us. It is a dark place.

Comment by linda hernandez on April 25, 2013 at 6:24am

it has been nine months now my son has gone,in a couple of months it will be his birthday,holidays has come and gone and as each  one goes by a tear will run down my face cause i so wish he was here with me he would have been 40 this year,i so wanted to be the one to go and have him to live long and have children and marry the women he loved but life is strange how it plays out

Comment by Adrianne Edgerly on April 25, 2013 at 1:24am

I do the same Teresa. Our world as we knew it will never be the same. I'm so sorry. For all of us.

Comment by Teresa D. on April 23, 2013 at 11:09pm

I keep coming to the site and all I do is stare at the screen and cry. 

I miss my son so bad I feel physically ill.  Just like most parents a part of me died that day.  I wish someone could tell me the perfect words to make the pain go away but I know no one can. 

I keep calling his phone knowing he will never answer. I look for him even though I know I'll never find him.

Comment by Ann Edmondson on April 23, 2013 at 8:46pm

B. Milt ~ I am sorry you are a member of this group. Please know you are in my prayers. Special hugs today.{{{hugs}}}

Comment by Bern on April 23, 2013 at 7:02pm

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6 months and my son is gone. My 20 year marriage is gone too. We do nothing but fuss toward each other. If you ever loss a child and married, you will pay double. You will crying over your child ALONE. YOU WILL CRY AND WISH YOUR MARRIAGE WOULD BE HAPPY  together AGAIN.

We can not talk anymore.

We have nothing else to say.

I look at him and I avoid saying how much we miss him cause I would burst into tears. I ride in the truck with him in silence. I just want you to know how it really is.

Comment by Sophia on April 23, 2013 at 9:18am

Anyone know of a grief group in the Chicago &/or suburb area?

Comment by Sophia on April 23, 2013 at 9:08am

Linda Hernandez, very nicely written. Thank you for your words of encouragement-it helps to hear it from another grieving parent who knows the pain we feel.

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