Comment

Comment by Sharon Robertson on June 23, 2015 at 5:25am

I lost my 17 year old daughter 7 years ago, and have still got some of her clothes, I will never part with them. 

What I have decided to do with a couple of her favourite shirts is turn them into something creative and beautiful to look at ..something that I can hang in the house. I am framing one of her T shirts (like they do for footy shirts) and creating a collage of photos with it...... I will post a photo when I am finished.

There are things I will never let go ... because the are a part of her, but I do have them safely packed away.

Comment by Lynn Williams on June 22, 2015 at 10:17pm

Thank you all for your responses. It helps to know I am not crazy.

Comment by Sharon on June 22, 2015 at 9:30pm

It is too painful to part with any little thing... it's all we have left of them.  I still haven't gone through any of Troy's clothes. I still can smell him on his sweatshirt. Maybe one day I can part with some of them...

Comment by Teresa D. on June 22, 2015 at 8:29pm

I know Michael is not in the marble box but I can't bring myself to part with his ashes either.  It sits on my dresser and I'm no where ready to move it.  It gives me something to hug.

I also still have his work boots on my other dresser. I'm not ready to put them away either. As sick as it sounds they give me something to smell.

I gave him a clock radio when he was 13. He kept it just because I gave it to him. Now I keep it just because he kept it. Silly.... 

Comment by Ammy on June 22, 2015 at 11:52am

Lynn & Sharon, what a hard decision to have to make.  As you said Sharon, I can only hope that this brings peace and closure to you both, but I don't think we ever really have complete closure.  

After reading both your comments I wondered why I feel as if I can't bury my son's ashes.  I can only think that I still can't face the finality of it even after almost 5 years (July 14).

I know that for some of you it's hard to imagine better days, but they do happen.  Take each one with gratitude when you get them.  

You are all in my heart.  {{{HUgs}}}

Comment by Sharon on June 21, 2015 at 6:04pm

(((Lynn))),
It's so very hard. I decided to bury my sons ashes too. I kept a small keepsake urn, but the day of the burial I freaked out. I was sobbing and telling my husband that maybe I made a mistake, that maybe I should keep all of his ashes. I asked the funeral director if I changed my mind, could I get the ashes back latter. He relied yes, it can be done. In the end, we went through with the burial. We each wrote him a note, and I put in some of his personal items that he would've wanted. We go visit his grave every weekend.
I'm just telling you this story so that will see that you are not alone with your feelings. Burying a child is a parents worst nightmare. Part of me wanted to climb in the hole with him. I hope you will find peace and closure in your decision.

Sharon

Comment by Connie K on June 21, 2015 at 3:49pm

Thinking of you Lynn <3

Comment by Rj on June 21, 2015 at 3:48pm

Oh lynn, you must do what is best for you now. We have lost enough and suffered enough and continue to do so. We need to stop worry for everyone else. We must continue to be gentle with ourselves...you do what you feel is right for you, and they do what they wish to do. Huggsss

Comment by Lynn Williams on June 21, 2015 at 1:50pm

I am having such a difficult time today. Kyra died a year and ten months ago. We had her poremains cremated and they are on a little stand in my living room with her pictures and other mementos. I never cared about burying her ashes in the ground but my husband needs this closure. My husband had a beautiful marble stone carved for the cemetery and will bury her ashes next Sunday. My step-son and his family and our other daughter will be here. I am keeping some of her ashes with me but I can't bring myself to watch her being buried in the ground. For my own sanity I can not do this now. Am I being selfish for not taking part in this. At this point in my life I am trying not to life with the should 's and I hope my family understands. I can't live with the trauma of visually reality of confronting her death again. I finally feel her spirit and love around me and won't let myself fall back in that deep well again. I need to follow my path and do what is right for me. Thank you for letting me get this out. Everyone here understands this pain

Comment by Rj on June 21, 2015 at 10:56am

Thinking of my ex husband today with a heavy heart.

• ‹ Previous
• 1
• …
• 112
• 113
• 114
• 115
• 116
• …
• 757
• Next ›
• Page