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Comment by Ashley on January 1, 2013 at 5:24pm

I think going out to eat at her favorite restaurant would have been great. Maybe you could bring a friend or family member with you and that might you feel less afraid of what others might think of you. I lost my mom in April 2012 and her birthday is coming up so I am trying to think of things I can do. I don't want to just pretend that day doesn't mean anything to me now that she is gone. 

Comment by Jennifer Blackwood on January 1, 2013 at 5:11pm

I have my mom's ashes at home as well! I wanted to go to Red Lobster, since she loved that place but I would be going by myself and I think I would feel weird sitting at a table alone. Judy, of course I don't think you are silly! I want to do a lot but I guess I'm afraid of what people would think..it's a shame I let that bother me!

Comment by Storyas Fawnfeather on January 1, 2013 at 2:59pm

Jennifer, Ann and Judy - I buy my Mom flowers and presents all year long and put them on her grave - same for my dad.  On her birthday, I make it special by donating flowers to church and then taking them to her grave after church as they give whoever donated the flowers for the altar the flowers after church.  I do the same on the day they died.  I do not think it is at all silly to celebrate their birthday still.  I just wish I could still take her out to eat on her birthday like I did when she was alive - Red Lobster for my birthday and then for hers.

Comment by Judy on January 1, 2013 at 12:50pm

I think it's a great idea to honor our mothers on their birthdays whether they are here or not. I had a scotch on my mother's birthday this year, but would do more stuff for her if my dad weren't watching! He thinks I'm silly, but you know I'm not, right, Jennifer?

Comment by Ann on January 1, 2013 at 3:46am

Jennifer, you don't sound crazy.  I have my mom's ashes at home with me.  For holidays, I buy her flowers.  I also buy her Betty Boop figurines because she loved Betty Boop.  I place the flowers and the figurines next to her ashes.  I also play her favorite music.  

Comment by Jennifer Blackwood on January 1, 2013 at 1:28am

I know this might sound crazy but what do you do for your loved one's birthday, when they have passed..any ideas? Mom's birthday is Saturday and I'm not quite sure what to do. I'm used to having her with me so I'm kinda stuck! And should I celebrate her earth birthday or her new birthday?

Comment by Storyas Fawnfeather on December 28, 2012 at 4:46pm

K - I know how you feel.  My mom died just about 3 weeks before Christmas.  The first year was the hardest.  I remember we tried to go on.  My brother and sister-in-law gave me a present that I opened, but I was numb.  Nothing mattered at that moment.  It gets a little easier with the passing of time, but nothing has mattered as much since she left.  For all of you, I hope that now that Christmas is over that you all feel a little better.  I know for me, I never knew there could be a pain as deep as loosing my Mom.  Someone said that they wished they could pick up the phone and call her - I'd give just about anything to be able to do that.  I miss her so much.

Comment by Eliza on December 25, 2012 at 9:42pm

My first Christmas without mom. She passed from cancer just shy of three weeks ago. It was a really tough day, but we made it through. I miss her so much.

Comment by michael sandoval on December 25, 2012 at 4:09pm

Dear James,

I know exactly how you feel about your family crumbling.  My condolences and merry Christmas to you and everyone.

Comment by Rebecca Pate on December 25, 2012 at 2:26pm

I feel really ashamed because this is far from my first or second christmas without my mom. i lost my mom when I was 15 and I am now 42. I don't really know why this christmas has been really extra hard for me but it has. I have not wanted to do anything. No shopping, no decorations, no nothing. Then I feel bad because of my children. They deserve a special christmas. I miss my mom so very much and I feel like the memories are fading. I just have images now. There are no conversations just images. Sometimes I would give anything to just call her on the phone and hear her voice again....

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