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Comment by Danny on November 22, 2015 at 9:36pm

good to see martha here after a while.  As for the grief it is going to be there and i am trying to live with it. i have done some things to keep myself sane but l tell you its been two years now and regularly engage in a dialogue as i know we are not alone and they are watching us

Comment by valerie cox on November 22, 2015 at 7:49pm

Thank you Martha for being here. I am trying, it just feels to hard right now.

Comment by Martha on November 22, 2015 at 7:40pm

We are here for you Valerie.

Life on this earth was meant for service to others. Little gestures make a difference. And, we must be extra good because our mothers are above watching from Heaven.

Comment by valerie cox on November 22, 2015 at 7:29pm

Thank you so much Martha, i just came back from the store and the christmas music playing really got to me. I know that love and gratitude, i have it for my mother. I really think i was in shock to at first and now the reality of it being true is setting in. It feels like a nightmare i cant wake up from. I love that you wrote they are in a place of peace and love, and i am so glad i will be with her again. I just keep praying for god to help me. Thank you again Martha.

Comment by Martha on November 22, 2015 at 6:13pm

Dear Valerie:

Believe it or not, it took weeks to go beyond a state of shock after my mother's passing to start crying as you are. That says a lot about your inner strength.

Is it going to get better? From my own personal xperience it will never be the same. But, in due time the grief will re-surface when there is an emotional trigger. The love for my mother and the gratitude for the time together has deepened. And, life goes on in a different way until we are together again (when it is our time).

The soul is eternal. Our mother live us. Their passing is not the end for them. They are in a beautiful place where there is not pain, only peace and love.

Comment by valerie cox on November 22, 2015 at 11:51am

I just cant stop crying, is this ever going to get any better?

Comment by valerie cox on November 22, 2015 at 10:13am

I can relate to what everyone is saying here, i lost my mom october 10th to lung cancer. I lived with her for most of my life and she was my life. I am greatful for everyone sharing. I dont think i will ever feel better again. 

Comment by Megan on November 21, 2015 at 4:55am

Oh my goodness, Nancy. You 100% need a new counselor. That is extremely unprofessional and I can only assume she has not experienced the loss of someone close to her. When one of my grandmothers died she was in her late nineties. Her body had been slowly failing her for years. She was going blind and was unable to get around as she used to. She was a very religious woman and she would constantly remark that she was ready to leave this world. Even knowing that their mother felt her time was up (and was very accepting of the eventuality of her death) did nothing to diminish the heartache that my Father and his siblings felt and still feel about her passing. Grief isn't something you try to rationalize. I don't believe anyone who has experienced the loss of someone so precious to them will ever get over it. Don't worry, you are not alone in your feelings. She is the one who was wrong. If you do change doctors I would encourage you to let her know your reasoning so that she does not hurt any of her other clients in the same way. Maybe in a letter or something, if confrontation is to difficult?

Comment by Martha on November 20, 2015 at 5:56pm

We will never "get over" losing our mothers. However, those of you that do have a partner, children, etc. are in a better situation for lack of a better way to put it.

Casey: Your mother would want you to take care of yourself. We do not know how our own death is going to be. It might be quick or NOT.

Keri K: I went thru the same as you. Mom and I were roommates and best friends. It is completely devastating. But, take heart I am standing three years after, and like you I thought my body and soul would not endure this huge loss. Pray, ask for God to give you the strength for just today, the power we do not have on our own.

God Bless us all.

Comment by Casey on November 20, 2015 at 5:35pm

I am not really concerned about my  health. Death seems like a relief , if its quick and relatievely painless one. Grief is like a bottomless hole that can never be filled. Its difficult to walk with a hole in one's heart.

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