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Comment by Brett Bowman on September 20, 2017 at 9:44pm

That guilt is completely natural. You don't want to let go of your mom. There's a part of me that feels like the day I stop grieving will be the day I truly say goodbye to her. 

Comment by BLUEBELL on September 20, 2017 at 9:28am

Another okay morning. Having a little anxiety and sadness, but it is not overwhelming. I should be grateful, but instead there is a sense of guilt.  

Bluebell

Comment by BLUEBELL on September 18, 2017 at 2:15am

My Mom is surrounded by cats. She loved them so much.

Bluebell

Comment by Brett Bowman on September 17, 2017 at 11:33pm

Amen. And what would heaven be without our furry little friends? They sure know how to love, too.

Comment by Luisa Salter on September 17, 2017 at 11:25pm

Thank you Brett. I believe that Mom is healed and her spirit is free. She is with her parents and cats and others she loved who left this world. I also have to believe that she is with me when I need her and that I will see her again in God's time.

Comment by Brett Bowman on September 17, 2017 at 10:15pm

Luisa, I remember very well how hard it was to say goodbye to my mom's things. I tried to do it very quickly. The thing is, a year and a half later, I still find things. It is so hard.

I try to visualize it from another perspective. I can just imagine that if I had died first how hard it would have been for my mom if to go through my things. I can just see her going through my closet and crying. I know what I would say to her if I could. I would say, "Mom, these are just clothes and things that I collected. It's you that I love. Don't worry. You can't throw that away."

I am so sorry for your loss. I believe that your mom is young and healthy again. She has perfect vision. She will never be sick again. I believe that she is surrounded by people that she loves, most of all God. Your mom is fine. It's you that I am worried about. You have a broken heart. You are in good company here. If you ever want to talk just know that we are here. I will say a prayer for you tonight.

God Bless You. Love hurts. I can tell you this much. As sad as we are now, we would all go through it again. Our mom's were worth it.

Comment by BLUEBELL on September 17, 2017 at 12:43pm

Keep them as long as you like. There is no hurry and no rule that you have to get rid of them. My Mom's things are part of what I have left of her. My sister and I still are hanging onto her house. I especially will find it hard to sell it. I am tearing up just thinking about it. If I were honest with my feelings, I would say what I really want is her back. But I can not have that. I pray that where she is now is a place of such peace and harmony, that she would be thinking " This is unbelievable!"

Bluebell

Comment by Luisa Salter on September 17, 2017 at 11:52am

I am sorry for your losses too bluebell, and Theresa. I know we all miss our Moms very much. For me this past year seeing her decline and pass away has been the hardest thing I've ever had to do.

Comment by Luisa Salter on September 17, 2017 at 11:49am

Thank you both. Yes that's it Bluebell, packing Mom's things and knowing that they are all of the things that she loved and cared about and will never use again because she is gone. It is heartbreaking. For example my Mom retired in 2014 with great plans to engage in her favorite hobbies like sewing and knitting. She lost most of her vision in 2015 after getting shingles in her eyes. Then her lungs collapsed in April 2016 and she barely survived, but made it home on Hospice. I moved her to my hometown so that I could take care of her. Anyway, when we were moving her out of her house and into the apt, I felt frustrated at times because Mom just insisted on keeping almost all of her yard, fabric, etc. even though we knew she would not be able to use it. Now that she is gone, as I pack those things I have such sadness for my Mom that she was never able to do the things that she wanted to do in her retirement. Many of her things I have decided I just can't get rid of yet and am moving into storage. I know I will have to get rid of them sooner or later but it's too difficult right now.

Comment by BLUEBELL on September 17, 2017 at 11:13am

Luisa

I am sorry for your recent  loss. It was very hard for me too Luisa to go through Mom's things. The hardest part was watching the boxes go out the door to be donated. I kept a few articles of her clothing and some other personal items. I am glad I did now, because they hold pleasant memories. My Mom passed away Feb. 14th 2017. I miss her so much.

Bluebell 

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